How was it damaged. Did your relationship recover? Why/how?
2006-10-22 15:26:48 · 15 answers · asked by imzadi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I depends on how the porn is involved. If both members of a couple enjoy watching it together and it gives them ideas or gets them both ready to go, then it is healthy. If you are asking because your husband no longer comes sniffing around your door and he is late for work because he surfs the net for porn until 2 am... then you might have a problem. The truth is that for most men watching porn the fantasy is not being with the woman they are watching... the fantasy is having sex like that with their wife, girlfriend, or whomever. It porn is causing a problem in your marriage you need to sit down and talk about the situation. If he refuses to discuss any of your points of contention then it is up to you to decide how big this problem is.
2006-10-22 15:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have heard that there are a lot of marriages that are damaged due to porn. They say that men who view too much porn & masturbate to it either have a tough time getting it up or can no longer get it up when they are with a "REAL" woman...
The fantasy takes over & they can no longer measure up to reality....
I can't figure out how people think watching porn to "GET YOU GOING" is good!!!!! If you are having to watch fake garbage like that then who is to say your marriage or relationship has nothing wrong with it. Your husband or wife should be the ones to "GET YOU GOING"
2006-10-22 15:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine. My ability to be free sexually and naked in front of my spouse has seriously been damaged. I'll never in a million years compare to those air burshed 15 year olds or those fake orgasms. I don't think my marriage will ever truly recover in that I'll always carry huge scars. Porn is proven to be addicting and destroys many, many lives.
2006-10-22 16:08:14 · answer #3 · answered by me 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i was reading a magazine and it said Kirk Franklin was/is addicted to porn and his wife is sticking by his side,i think its so strange that he's addicted to porn,when does he ever have the time and the energy all that zesting up he does on the stage i would of never stop and think wow maybe he has an outside life and he's a porn watcher but i think it might work for them,she's accustom to that lifestyle,hey she might get more money but she won't be chilling with the stars he chills with,she's not Ivana Trump
2006-10-22 15:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by tiffany15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I enjoy it. I think this damages relationships where people are immature. Some people should just need to grow up. I don't see how porn can ruin a relationship.
2006-10-22 23:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Porn dehumanizes the object of the viewer. Most of the time the porn is totally fake. Not the sex, but the attraction, the level of intensity, all fake. FAKE. Even the climax shots, fake.
You want good sex? Stick with one man for live, or one woman for life. Marriage. One man-one woman. For life is the best.
2006-10-22 15:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If we are going to obey GOD's Word, the Bible, we need to see that 'Porn' is 100% Wrong in GOD's Eyes.....whether you are Single or Married.
GOD's desire for human kind is to have Only Husbands & Wives to see each other Naked. No one else.
And if a person is Single, "WAIT" till Marriage for a Guy or a Woman to View the opposite sex all Naked.
I'm speaking to Myself also when I say all this. For all guys get Tempted to wanna see other Nudes of the opposite sex. And I'm happily Married and still........
We just need to say, "NO" to Sexual Temptation and "YES" to GOD's Laws and His ways. Amen, everyone ?? = )
2006-10-22 17:00:21 · answer #7 · answered by SteverZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still have problems with it everynow and then, but I think it was better than him going to someone else. I can't always be there so trust was hurt alittle too. It totally sucks because then you look at youreself and thought there was something wrong with you. It has been in part my fault he did though. I lost my sex drive and am going to have it checked out by my doctor, but it really hurt me emotionally and now I want to get more fit. It just sucks.
2006-10-22 17:10:02 · answer #8 · answered by NoName 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Admission of guilt.
There is a self-help book for your relationship. Work on it together.
The Sex Addiction Workbook: Proven Strategies to Help You Regain Control of Your Life (New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) (Paperback)
2006-10-22 15:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by shlomogon 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have a confident marriage and no insecurity I think its OK but if you don't like it for some reason stay away from it. There are lots of women that feels very insecure about their husband watching it because they feel left out and many other reasons. You must feel CONFIDENT with yourself and your marriage.
2006-10-22 15:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋