i have recontly lost someone that i was in a serious relationship with and loved so much....now i feel as though i am in a state of depression, and i dont know how to get out of it....all i do is cry and sleep......i havent eaten a real meal in so long....when i did i felt nausious....anyone out there with advise so i can move on with my life and get out of this depression?? i feel suicidal sometimes.... i just miss him so much i feel as though my heart is literally broken....please help me!
2006-10-22 15:20:04 · 26 answers · asked by Ellen 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
and we didn't break up, he died
2006-10-22 15:24:28 · update #1
I'm so sorry for your loss. Try this.... talk to HIS parents or family. I'm sure that they need to be consoled for the loss of their child as well. See if you can have a family member or a close friend stay with you for a while until your feeling better. Talk to a professional. They have ways of talking you through situations like this. This is what they spend years of training doing. Take your time. Dont rush yourself to "get over it" or "let things go" You have been through alot and need time to grieve and sort out your feelings. By having a support system you will be able to pull yourself together. I'm sure your life has changed dramaticly. Give yourself time to heal. A broken heart is the worst thing in the world. But I send my condolences and will keep you in my prayers. If you ever need someone just to chat with e'mail me.
2006-10-22 15:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by crystalyn129 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have recovered from depression which stemmed from a serious illness and I also happen to have lost my best friend in June this year to leukemia. Both my illness and the death of my friend happened out of the blue. My illness happened some 5 years ago and hence I knew that with the passing away of my best friend, I would have to keep my self in a state that wouldn't cause a relapse.
Depression is a horrible thing to deal with and as others have mentioned, you should seek professional help as soon as you identify symptoms of it. The longer you leave it, the deeper state of depression you will get and it will be harder to fend it. There are great help out there as long as you reach out. I was and am still heart broken because my best friend meant very much to me too. She is irreplaceable and so is the person you loved. I have been quite upset over the last few months but I have tried to think positive as all my love ones have advised. You should think "At least you have found great love at one point in your life than never" Some people aren't as fortunate and may not ever have a great love and best friend who they can pour their love out to.
Treasure you LIFE ! Live it and live it well ! I am sure that is how "HE" would have wanted it for you!!
Definitely, if you feel suicidal, seek help immediately and by you asking a question here, it is a good start to your journey to healing! It will take a long time, but wounds will heal !!!
Take care!
2006-10-22 22:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ellen, you need to give yourself some time...and permission to grief.
The pain from losing a loved one can be the most severe suffering one ever endures. Such is the power of grief. It can take over your life and become the centerpiece pushing everything else to the side or to the back. The pain can be overpowering, all consuming and incapacitating. It is agonizing. It is transient. It is NORMAL. Everyone’s grief is unique and everyone’s grief is the same. Death is a friend to no one...
Some of us know that death is so tragic and yet we must go through the pains of overcoming the tragedy. We have to face what has happened and find a way to bless our future by remembering the blessings we had because of what we shared with those we lost. As long as we can hold the promise that they are not lost from us forever, not gone from us completely, we can learn to live with peace in our hearts knowing they are watching over us always.
Find HELP ! There are online support groups and grief counseling and I'm sure there is a local support center in your area.
GriefNet.org is an Internet community of persons dealing with grief, death, and major loss. They have a link to Suicide Prevention & Survivors Info, E-mail support groups and a Resources Directory:
http://www.griefnet.org/
These online support groups are always available and open for participation 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, all groups are free:
http://www.griefsupportservices.org/newgrief/griefsupportservices/onlinesupportgroup.php
Find a therapist in your area by entering your zip code:
http://cms.psychologytoday.com/nmha/prof_search.php
Chat Room for all bereaved ~ Open 24 hours:
http://groww.org/Branches/gr.htm
2006-10-22 23:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really see a doctor about your depression. I know a doctor can help you because I have been in your situation before and I pulled myself out of it with the doctors help. Also you should really get out of the house and try to meet new some new people. No relationship is worth what you are going through. Maybe some new faces and some new friends could really help you. You should at least talk to someone close to you about how you are feeling. I will be thinking of you and praying for you, that you will find some help.
2006-10-22 22:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by PegSl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please set an appointment with a physician. They can evaluate you, and decide what the next step should be. Remember, depression is not only mental, but very much physical, and is related to chemicals in the brain and elsewhere in the body.
What you are feeling is very much normal. It is the grieving process, and a normal, healthy person goes through this. Fact is, if you weren't feeling sadness and pain, then something would be wrong. This is how the body and mind copes with death and the end of a close relationship.
You are going to be just fine. Grieve as long as necessary, but do go see a physician and have them walk you through this stage in your life.
I wish you the best.
2006-10-22 22:33:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same situation two months ago...it was the worst thing that happen to me in my life...but you know something? Is not worth it to suffer for someone that maybe is having a great time now. Take your time and think what are your goals in life and the things you always dream about. Stop thinking about suicide, you are gonna hurt a lot of people that doesn't deserve it... don't be selfish...GOD is the only one that can decide about your life.
Call some friends and be next to people that really loves you and care about you. Do some excercises and do some new activities... new people are gonna be in your life so enjoy it!!!
Suicide is an exit door for problems don't be coward... fight for life!!!
If you have the opportunity look for medical help but be careful of what kind of treatment you receive...sometimes medicine is not the way out!
2006-10-22 22:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by Vero 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My heart goes out to you it's got to be terrible. It's normal to grieve and even feel depressed for a spell but it sounds like yours is ongoing and not getting better. You might need to see the doc for a temporary fix. If that isn't an option maybe you could start or join in some kind of work that centers around how he died with. Like a car accident join or start some safety awareness, or if he died from an illness join in with a group that is raising money to fight it that sort of thing. My own personal thing would be to turn to God but if you aren't Christian and find that not an option there are support groups or start one. I'll be thinking about you.
2006-10-22 22:37:26 · answer #7 · answered by Brianne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello,
I now perfect how your feeling.
It will take a long time to get over this, it's normal you feel depressed.Talk as much as you can with good friends and family about this.
Please there is so much in life.
You have to start eating again.
Keep your mind occupied with a lot of things, go working or go on holiday.
Always keep in mind that when someone dies, the sun will always go up again...means life continues.
Asking this question is a step in the good direction.
I wish you a lot of straight in this difficult in time.
2006-10-22 23:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by Chantal D. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your heart is broken, and it's going to hurt. You sound like a young girl though, this is obviously your first major breakup. My point is that it will be ok. Time really does heal all. It hurts now, but you are going to have to tough up and deal with it. There will be other guys. You are probably going to hear this ten times over. That is because it is the truth and everyone will be where you are at least once.
2006-10-22 22:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by Justin T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From my personal experience, I am going through Post Partum Depression right now. I was feeling exactly the same as you described. I tried to get over it my self with help from a therapist but it just keep getting worse. So I went to my doctor and talked to him. He put me on the lowest dose of anti-depressents, I really was trying to avoid taking them, but its the best thing I have ever done!! It took a couple of weeks, about 3 weeks for me for them to kick in, but they really help. Especially since you are feeling suicidal sometimes, which I was as well, its time for you to talk to someone about your depression. And dont think that you are the only one who has depression, millions of people have it, for some reason its just not talked about. And I admit, I felt ashamed to be diagnosed with depression cause I though I would never get something like that. But I did.
The best thing for you to do is talk to a loved one close to you and ask them to help you get through this. Make a doctors appointment and talk to him/her and they will help you!!
I wish you love and luck and Im very sorry to hear about the passing of your loved one!! Get better soon.
2006-10-22 22:35:29 · answer #10 · answered by SummerLovin' 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋