My problem is that I'm a straight guy, but I talk like I'm gay. I have friends who are gay, and I have no problem with gay people, and I think they rock, but I don't like constantly being asked if I am gay because of the way I talk. It isn't blatent, but there are the underlying subtones and the little nuances and accents that just make me sound that way... I would like to fix this.
2006-10-22 15:02:44 · 10 answers · asked by Chistery 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Come now, you're stronger than that. You can't let what people say upset you though sometimes it may. You're being yourself and that is all that matters. When someone asks you are you gay because of the way you speak/sound kindly and patiently tell them that you are not and further inform them that not every person who speaks/sounds like that is gay and viceversa. Educate those who are ignorant.
Also to answer your second question if this bothers you so, there are speech therapists who deal with such things.
2006-10-22 15:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by Selym 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are too sensitive to the "gay" thing which probably means you are quite young. You can learn to change speech patterns and inflections but since this is clearly mostly in your mind you will find a way to undermine yourself. If you are really young then you are in the guilt phase of "Am I or am I not?" That is because young guys who have gay friends find themselves becoming intrigued with the upbeat nature of their presentation. (Note: Much of the upbeat, playful and cleaverness of young gays is an act - their lives are as filled with dilemmas as anyone else's.)
You should rent "My Fair Lady" the musical - and Best Picture winner - starring Audrey Hepburn. It is about two upper class British gentlemen and one of them bets the other he can take any lower class Brit who speaks bad English and teach her to speak good English. Great film. Very funny and always entertaining. Actually there are a lot of good suggestions in it that you can use. But, just form your words a bit more carefully. You are talking lazy and that may be a hint that you should not be lazy about anything. Good luck.
2006-10-22 15:27:12 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really think gay people rock, then it shouldn't bother you that people think you're gay. I'm gay, and a lot of people have told me t hey thought I was a heterosexual man. It never bothered me. It never bothered me when women flirted with me, either. Not one bit.
You say you have nothing against gay people. But I have a feeling you know fully well that most people really are bigots towards gay men. Because of this, you don't want to be put in the category of gay.
My advice? Get over it. But then that would be my advice to most non-gay people in general. (Oh, by the way, I love non-gay people. They are as good as anyone else.)
2006-10-22 16:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Angry Gay Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a speech therapist if it bothers you that much, but honestly who cares what other people think. You know you're not gay and you have gay friends so you must not thing negatively of them....so why does it even bother you? Just be yourself, if someone judges you by how you talk then they don't deserve to be your friend anyway.
2006-10-22 15:08:08 · answer #4 · answered by JR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what would be really cool? If you were so okay with gayness that you didn't feel like you had to change your speech so people didn't wonder if you were gay, and you didn't feel like you had to tell everyone who asked that you aren't gay. If you just looked at them and crooked your eyebrow and said, "wouldn't you like to know?" and then walked away. A little ambiguity in this world is I think a good good thing. Let em be confused.
2006-10-22 15:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by kundalinicat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any solutions for you, sorry....I'm a gay man who doesn't have the nuances and accents ...so maybe we're just born with our own voices....the worst thing that you can do is to worry about it.
2006-10-22 18:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree with JR completely -if it bothers you that much, you can go to a speech therapist but the better solution might be to just work on not letting it bother you that much.
2006-10-22 15:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear, being gay or les or something to that end doesn't transform you to some other type of breed. Its just your liking to enjoy sex. Have fun.
2006-10-22 16:54:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start hanging with different people and adopt their speech!You may find a new batch of friends.
2006-10-22 15:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu could just be honered to know that people think you are cool enough to be gay and approachable enough to ask ;)
2006-10-22 16:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by Just Jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋