I have to make a confession to my dad. I have to tell him he needs to send me 15K more for my college tuition because the 15K he sent me before...I gambled away in 2 months(cries)...I know it will hurt him and I waited to see if I could win it back but that has not been possible and I cannot wait a day more (cant gamble anymore) or I will fail in my classes...I wish I was so rich that 15k was not a big deal but it is. My 56yr old dad has to now send my stupid *** more money its so sick...I did this mistake before also and spent 10K and promised I wont do it again so I have let him down.
Please tell me how can I make this confession - Please I am distraught...I know once I graduate and get a good job...this money wont mean much but I want my father to love me and trust me...I dont wanna make any mistakes in this important conversation....yet I am confused as to how to go about it...what is your advice and suggestions!
Thanks!
2006-10-22 14:57:58 · 27 answers · asked by Shah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My advice is to go get a student loan maybe you wouldn't be so quick to gamble away someones hard earned money if YOU had to pay it back. he's already done his share...do yours.
2006-10-22 15:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by .*^+Holly+^*. 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, you should know that no matter how rich or successfull you get in life 15K WILL ALWAYS mean something.
By your own admission, you haven't lost 15K you have lost a total of 25K.
My friend you have a clear GAMBLING ADDICTION.
The best thing that you can say to your Dad right now is that you now realize that when it comes to gambling that you are OUT OF CONTROL, & that you want to be put into a treatment programme TODAY!! Forget about your education for now. This problem is something you have to get over before you can worry about your future.
Right now you think that if you tough it out, that you can graduate, start making a large income, & go on with life like this problem has never happened. YOU ARE WRONG! You are at least 25K in debt to your father right now, & by the time you graduate, you will be so far behind in debt, because you WILL do it again, that you will NEVER CATCH UP.
You want your father to trust you? Well the best thing for you right now, is if NOBODY TRUSTS YOU!!
You said something that is very telling about you & your condition. You said "My 56yr old dad has to now send my stupid ***more money" Hey sonny boy, Daddy doesn't have to send you ONE MORE PENNY! In fact if he did send you more money he would do you more harm & absolutely no good.
You need to lose your chance at College to properly understand what you have done to yourself, & your family.
So this leads me to the 2nd best thing that you can tell your Dad.
That he absolutely positively cannot send you any more money for anything until you have successfully completed a Gambling Addiction treatment programme, AND are actively participating in your recovery.
I am sure that this is not what you were looking for when you posted this question, but you have a SERIOUS PROBLEM, that far outweighs anything else that is going on in your life right now.
If you truly don't want to make any more mistakes when you talk to your Dad, then I highly recommend that you give serious consideration to what I have offered you here.
You have made some mistakes that are about to present very negative life changing consequences for you. Now is the time to make some decisions that will POSITIVELY impact your life.
GET HELP NOW!!
2006-10-22 22:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The confession is the easy part. The hard part is you need to get the hell out of school and get a job to pay him back. You've already done this before and now you've done it again. You have a serious gambling problem. You are in denial about your gambling problem. You have violated your dad's trust once again. If I was your dad I would want to know the truth and then after a long discussion I would suggest you drop all your classes until you pay the money back and then go back to school and you would pay for the tuition. It's not the end of the world. Your education in life will start and your education in school will have to be put on hold for later time..............Why do you gamble?? Obviously you aren't good at it...so make the choice to stop!!!!
2006-10-22 22:04:17 · answer #3 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion if your old enough to ask advice from others regarding this particular issue you are old enough to face the consequences of your actions. You stated you have done this before so you did not learn from your past. In my opinion you have no respect for yourself therefore you cannot have respect for your father. Your father has worked hard for that money and you blew it over a few hours of addictive fun. I hope you look at this situation for the seriousness that it has caused you and consider yourself lucky that is has not gotten any further than what it has. Own upto your truth and be honest with your father, after all he deserves that much, don't you think? Next, I would seek help for your gambling and realize that this is the early stages of a more serious problem in the future if not nipped in the bud........just an opinion.....kat
p.s. do you know how many other students out there that cannot get into school because of lack of money, do you know how privledged you are, you should be grateful and wise up.....
2006-10-22 22:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is you father giving you the money instead of paying the school directly? Does he not know about your gambling problem or is this something new for you? Why are you gambling?
You seem a little naive in believing that once you graduate from college you will "get a good job and the money won't mean that much." That statement in itself indicates you are not in touch with reality. I can assure you, even with a good job $15k is A LOT of money to piss away.
You need to come clean to your father ASAP. But you also need to be ready to face your gambling problem. People have destroyed families and even lost their lives over this. Are you prepared to do that just as you are starting out? Nip it in the bud. Get a DIFFERENT hobby! Pray and ask God to help you. He cares and He will listen. He can also give you the strength to face your father and will help you find the words to say.
God bless you!
2006-10-22 22:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the ONLY advice i can give you is this: write it in a letter so that he cant get mad and cut you off over the phone...INCLUDE IN THIS LETTER, the name and phone number..along with the date and times of your REHAB!!!! there is no way for your father to trust you unless he KNOWS your getting help. gambling is an addiction and you cant stop on your own if you've gone this far. Dont be totally surprised if he doesnt send you the money...15k isnt easy to get and for your father to forgive you already and help you out...you just sh*t all over him...so the best bet is to prove that you have a problem, prove that the money is going to school(AKA-have him pay the school NOT YOU!) good luck.. and remember that your dad was there for you when most people would give you the finger and tell you to shove it....your dad sounds like a good guy, dont do that to him again...
2006-10-22 22:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by thatgirluknow 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have your Dad LOAN you the money and you sign a promissory note. But this time, have HIM pay it directly to the school, the bookstore, the cafeteria, the apartment manager - whatever you need it for. Then you can't gamble it away and there is no more trust issue.
And get help! Habitual gamblers are some of the most trapped and unhappy people on earth. You only have one life -- why spend it being a gambling loser over and over?
2006-10-22 22:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by Rainfog 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a gambling problem ... you need to see the school councellor and see what programs are open to you ... you betrayed a trust (twice) and that is something you'll have to live with .... no punishment your dad will hand out will be severe enough ... he's your dad ... even though you lied and have obviously caused him great distress you're still his son.
Get a job now and work your *** off to support yourself ... I personally wouldn't be sending you any more money 25k gambled away is fortune to most people, many people build lives on much less ... stop your bleeding heart sob story and go get yourself the help you need
2006-10-22 22:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing you need to just come right out and tell him the truth. No matter how you say it, your betrayal will hurt him. The fact that you did this before poses another question, do you have a gambling addiction? Also after the first time you did that you'd have been on your own with your tuition. It's time for you to grow up and take responsibility for your own life. If this makes you mad it's because often the truth hurts.
2006-10-22 22:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by chinadoll31645 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is tough... because I am not so fortunate like you to have a rich dad. However, I do suggest you make an effort to cut down on gambling for future references.... You will lose everything. Now, I know the feeling, and I will try to help.
You don't want to come off straight up.. dad I gambled it all...
And you also don't want to lie... well, I don't know...
Because if you were to lie, a good lie would be... I'm doing Real Estate Investing or maybe you're saving up for a better car or something. You can say, someone stole money or ripped you off... You know.
The problem is that, any way you tell your dad " I gambled the money away" is not going to sound convincing to have him send you more. But maybe if you asked him for more money and completely evade the subject of gambling might be better... unless you want to tell him and just try to beg your way into regaining his trust by going over and making him a dinner or giving him a surprise and showing him how remorseful you are.
If he gets mad and hangs up, persist.. after all we are all human and you are his son. :)
2006-10-22 22:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by ahs_freakychic 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all, your dad doesn't "need" to send you another $15K for your college. He already did that and he didn't "need" to do it the first time.
You need some serious help with your gambling problem. Secondly, you need to figure out ON YOUR OWN how you are going to pay for college. Student loans, working (imagine), but you should not expect your father to kick in another dime. He is getting closer to retirement age and should be able to enjoy his own hard-earned money.
Be honest with your dad - you owe him that. But don't expect him to cough up more dough for you - don't even ask if you have any self-respect - or any respect for how hard your father worked for the money that he trusted you to use for school.
Take some responsibility for yourself.
2006-10-22 22:11:46 · answer #11 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋