Me and my best friend both like the same guy. She is going out with a different guy but still likes him. She is planning to break up with her boyfriend to go out with this guy...but I think she is trying to forget that I like him... that doesn’t bother me so much, but I feel guilty because I like him and she does too, and I know that he likes her... I feel guilty because I know I should be happy for her instead of feeling jealous. Should I feel guilty?
2006-10-22 14:54:27 · 16 answers · asked by none 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she is planning to break up with him in a few weeks and I have told her how I feel about him I told her that I'm think of asking him out but once she told me that he said I liked her I felt worse and not to mention scared...not to mention that the guy she is going to break up with is a guy I went to elementary with and is really sweet and I just went through a brake up where I was dumped because he found something better. I feel sympathy anger jealousy and worse of all i'm confused.... and another thing is that the guy is my x's best friend...wow now I feel worse. plz help!
2006-10-22 15:18:48 · update #1
i aske him out and he said yes...but for somreason i think its only because hes sorry for me i feel like im geting lower and lower and who knows how low i will go and if i can get back up again.
2006-10-23 13:59:50 · update #2
PLEASE HELP NOW HIM AND MY FRIEND ARE GETTING CLOSER AND HE STILL SAID HE WOULD GO WITH ME I STILL LIKE HIM BUT IM THINKING ABOUT SAYING THAT MAYBE HE SHOULD TRY GOING WITH SOMEONE ELSE CAUSE THIS IS WAY TO HARD FOR ME!!!
2006-10-24 14:50:49 · update #3
Nope. You shouldn't feel guilty at all. You should be happy for the both of them. You can't force him to like you. And you can't force her to just give him up. Just be happy, and you'll find someone who you'll appreciate more than anything later on in life
2006-10-22 14:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by craz34jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guilty for feeling jealous, No. Doing any thing that would harm their relationship, Yes. It always sucks when you and a friend like the same person. You should talk to your friend and tell her your true feelings and then tell her if she doesn't drop her old guy with in the next day you will try to hook up with the new guy first. This puts the ball in her court. If she really likes the new guy she will drop the old guy and start up with the new guy. And if your not out of high school or collage odds are they wont be together to long. Then you can try him out and your friend wont be able to say any thing about it. Good luck in any case.
2006-10-22 22:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by Chivalry77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'd be a little hurt too if the guy I liked was into my friend instead of me. But if he doesn't like you in that way, and you know that he likes her and she likes him, it's probably better to cut your losses. You don't need some boy that doesn't like you like that. You deserve a relationship where the guy is all about you, all eyes on you, all thoughts on you, YOU are the one he wants.
I know it must be hard, but try focusing that guilt and jealousy to being happy for her. Or if you can't do that just yet, try focusing on something other than that, like schoolwork or extracurricular activities. Try just being friends with your friend, a friend like you've always been, and if the topic gets to be too much, let her know you aren't that comfortable with it just yet.
Try not to beat yourself up too much. It's only normal to feel a little bit jealous in your situation.
2006-10-22 22:05:55 · answer #3 · answered by ♥i KnwUc It♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! you shouldn't feel guilty at all. If anything she should feel guilty because shes ignoring that you like him. If i was you i would ask him out before she does and after she breaks up with that other guy that way shes all alone. She doesn't deserve the guy shes all ready going out with because its almost like shes cheating on him. If i was you i would go for my man and i wouldn't let her stand in the way because she obviously isn't takin your feelings into consideration.
2006-10-22 22:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he like you? Remember men will come and go but you will have friends for a lifetime. Let her take this guy - I guarantee their relationship will last about 3 months until she likes someone else and breaks up with him.
2006-10-22 21:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by totalstressor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look don't feel guilty just let her have him and if he rejects her and says that he likes you instead of her than there you go, because she should let you have him since she has a man but hey you just step aside and don't risk your friendship over a man, remember it's not worth it.
2006-10-22 21:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by zkull_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first things first, you cant change your feelings, or hers, however i do find it quite selfish of her to not consider your feelings when she is making these decisions. because you are thinking of hers. just let her know that you like this guy, and that you'll be happy for her whatever she decides. she if she is breaking up with one guy for another, who is to say she wont do the same thing to this guy? i wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-22 21:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by blondie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you haven't done anything wrong. Would she like him if you didn't? sometimes you really have to watch those kinds of "friends" Besides if she already has a boyfriend she really shouldn't be looking around for another now should she.
2006-10-22 21:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by chinadoll31645 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, not really. Remember nearly everybody thinks that it is each man for himself. If you don't even have a boyfriend, you should definitely not feel guilty.
2006-10-22 21:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by OSD (Obsessive Shinoda Disorder) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she already has a boyfriend, you shouldn't feel guilty for liking this guy.
2006-10-22 21:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋