is it normal to dislike yourself. i don't like who i am, and i am working on changing for the better of myself and my family. Has anyone else felt this way? thanks in advance
2006-10-22 14:32:43 · 10 answers · asked by prettyinpink<3<3 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
yes it is normal. unfortunately. good news is, it is possible to learn to love & like yourself!!! one way, is to see a psychologist or counselor who can help you in a professional way to deal with such feelings. if you are uncomfortable with doing this, or don't have the financial means, you can try to improve things on your own. i am sure there are tons of self-help books out there written by the pros that can really help you.
i used to not like myself, but then i slowly learned how to love myself! one way was physically. i began to focus more & more on the beauty rather than the flaws. little by little, i really did begin to love who i am! now, i just don't let the flaws really bother me much. i realized no one else notices them, so what is the big deal? then, i learned how to stand up for myself. that was a big thing i needed to do. i always let everything fly by be & never said a word. i got tired of being walked all over. also, i learned to be more social. this was a big thing & helped a lot as well.
basically, it took me years to get to where i am now. i took small steps at a time & worked things out. at some points it was necessary to visit a counselor to help me through some things + other issues in life that i won't get into.
so, you are not alone & pretty much everyone has been there in some way or another at some point in life. good luck & never give up!!!
2006-10-22 14:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not normal to dislike yourself. Is that really coming from you or is it from the seed that other people planted in your head?
When I was younger, I used to hate myself. But that was because I would constantly give my power away to everyone else. I didn't know how to communicate my feelings and it just made me angrier and hate myself more. I've learned how to communicate, know I'm worth it now, and don't give my power away (when I recognize it) and it feels much better. I'm proud of who I've become as a result. Going through those hard times makes you a much stronger individual.
2006-10-22 21:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by LetMeBe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your going in the right direction....I think lots of people at some point or other in their lives have some form of self hate....just stay confident that you can make yourself a better person and try a little harder everyday.....do something nice for someone when you don't have to...that will make you feel really good about yourself. Stay strong and good luck.
2006-10-22 21:37:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on the degree of self-hating. Some people think that they are a waste of time and don't deserve to live. Those people need medical help.
If you just think you need to change and are trying to do that, they awesome! You're on your way!
Now, that is normal. But extensive self-hatred is not. It depends on how deep your feelings are.
2006-10-22 21:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by Loon-A-TiK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and write 10 things you like about yourself! You are a unique person created for a purpose in this world. There are things you can do that no one else can do quite like you. You may have a beautiful smile that lifts another spirits just to see your face. You may have an infectious laugh that causes other people to laugh along with you. You may have the ability to "come along side" other people who are in grief and pain in their lives. You have been created for a purpose.
2006-10-23 20:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People generally dislike themselves because they are not what others want them to be. The key to happiness and loving yourself is to figure out who you want to be and be that. Compermise for noone. Be unique in a world of clones.
2006-10-22 22:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by pixie_stix34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hATE IS SUCH A STRONG WORD iM CERTAIN WHEN YOU SEEK QUALATIES ABOUT YOURSELF YOU WILL FIND SEVERAL GOOD POSITIVE ONES. Everyone has thast special something we need only to tap into the positive side of things.You are a kind loving humanbeing quite capable of love and all good things to come your way its just yett o be discovered
2006-10-22 22:42:39 · answer #7 · answered by dovesofpeace56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have had periods in my life in which I have hated something about my self. So I did my best to correct them and tried to impove myself and today I am happy about my self and to those around me.
2006-10-22 21:39:22 · answer #8 · answered by Dale 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
naw girl thats wrong u should like yourself cuz your unique and NOBODY ELSE IS LIKE YOU thats why you should feel special and you shouldnt change anything about you no matter what anybody says!!!!!!!
2006-10-22 21:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
very normal!!! i feel that way alot! GOOD LUCK to ya!
2006-10-22 21:37:10 · answer #10 · answered by lwaite74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋