I'm single and alone, 54 years of age and for this discussion, a female. I'm very comfortable with my life & yes happy with it. I don't have to answer to anyone or account for my actions to anyone. Yet, there appears to be this mindset that if you are not in a relationship with, in my case, a male. That I'm gay. Or take a man, if he's single, not in a relationship with a female, and happy that way, that he's gay. Why can't people stop assuming that the only way to be happy is to be in a relationship? Did anyone think that maybe some of us don't want to be in a long term relationship? Or a relationship period!! Why must people talk like that? Is you life so perfect that you have to pick on others to prove it? Talk like this can and has ruined peoples lives. Is it really worth it to do that?
2006-10-22 14:27:57 · 11 answers · asked by PAT K 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Just ignore them, people's perception is when you reach a certain age, you should marry & form a family, but everyone is diff...and they just don't get it.
Eg. when you get married, next thing they ask is when u having a baby, if decided not to have one, they think this couple cannot conceive, see !
Just seize the day, live the way you like it !
2006-10-22 18:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by Rootbeer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not be ruined by these ignorants. Lets assume if you fall for the same sex, that does not make you abnormal. So what if you are lesbian or gay? Face it, how many of your friends around you or celebrities you know are such? Plenty! As long as we are comforable with our preferences, who are those ignorants to interfere. I am straight and I do not discriminate les or gay. In fact, some of my girl friends and boy friends prefer sexes of their kind.
And what is the big deal of anyone being single and not in a relationship. It is not as if they are causing any harm. The conservative mindset of pro-create the next generation should be discarded. How many times have you heard of old people being deserted by their own children and left wandering around.
Being in a relationship does not guarantee a life-time happiness or companionship. It is time to realise that an individual who strikes a balance in all aspect of life could be more happier than a couple who is trying to stay together to maintain a Happy Family image for the sake of other people.
However, I do understand the genuine concern from friends or family who do have a blissful marriage lives and want the same for you but such things could not be forced and they should know that you are as happy being single. Isn't that what they want of you? BE HAPPY :)
2006-10-23 06:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by smile_: ) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Human beings, by nature, believe every other human being should think as they think. Why do you suppose there are massive wars over religion? It's not because it's logical, reasonable, noble or even considered remotely appropriate by the holy scriptures these people allegedly live by. As for relationships, people get weird about them. I'm not single, myself, but I have single friends. They often complain to me of other friends, the minute they get married, shutting them out or as you say, giving them a hard time for being single. Personally, I wouldn't presume to tell them to live as I do except in jest. I wonder if your problem is just in taking people's jokes too seriously, or if they honestly believe you're gay? If the latter, tell them otherwise. If they don't accept it, get friends that trust you.
2006-10-22 14:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by The Mad Shillelagh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I am unaware that this has ruined anyone's life I am very much aware of the assumption many people have that I too, am gay.
I fail to understand how they reach this conclusion and despite my opinion that there is nothing wrong with being gay I find it irritating and offensive because it is simply not true.
I am opposed to the very concept of marriage and find myself feeling encumbered and constricted when in any type of relationship.
I view the concept of "Till death do us part." as little more than a lifetime bond of involuntary servitude.
Any relationship I've ever been involved in has been little more than an abyss of neurosis and drama.
I am quite satisfied with being single and more than satisfied without the responsibility and financial obligation of children.
Neither of these things would amount to anything in my life but an inconvenience that I would deeply resent.
Any suggestion that I should aquire either of the two in order to find happiness is assinine, absurd and utterly ridiculous.
As it stands, being self-employed and single I can fly to Europe, spend an hour on the beach reading a book and fly all the way back for no other reason save that I bloody felt like it.
I don't feel a compelling desire to explain my actions to anyone.
I fail to understand how I could possibly find happiness at the expense of my freedom.
I have witnessed for myself the overwhelming success of marriage with a 50% divorce rate and believe that any marriage involving a prenuptual agreement is a farce as it admits the possibility of a failure.
This admission is a direct contradiction to the oath of "Till death do us part." in my opinion.
Accordingly, the only way to reconcile this to my beliefs would be to enter into a marriage without one.
Doing so however, would risk my financial security and stability thus putting my current living situation at risk. This could only result in lowering my standard of living.
As a result of this I have resolved never to get married and never to have children.
As a result of this, I have resolved to never enter into another relationship.
No relationship in my opinion would ever produce happiness- it would do quite the opposite by bringing misery into my life.
To summarize the idea:
Relationship=Prison sentence.
My refusal to enter into one does not automatically make me gay.
In fact, even if I were- I would refuse to enter into any relationship with a man and even if gay marriage were legal- refuse to do that too.
Screw their assumptions, screw their opinions and mother-**** their judgemental statements.
I refuse to change my life for the sole purpose of satisfying someone else's sense of morality.
2006-10-22 15:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think because its easier to criticize other people than it is to pay attention and fix their own lives. I'm your age, and I am in a relationship, but I can flat out tell you that if I hadn't met her when I did, I would never have bothered again. I like being responsible for myself and depending on myself. My love and I will probably maintain our own homes for this reason, we are pretty set in our ways, and love spending time together, but still want to be alone at times.
More power to you, and you are old enough to not worry about what other people think, its one of the benefits of making it to half century!
2006-10-22 14:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Positive Thinking
2006-10-23 01:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by Rovinho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen, sister! Testify!
Personally, I don't need a woman around right now to make me happy. Most men do. I'm perfectly happy with my friends. I was married and have had great loves and romance, but at this point in my life, just like you, I'm more happy with only my own company. It does not necessarily mean I'm gay.
2006-10-22 14:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by sandislandtim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 06:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by latassa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of life, and all we do is simply an attempt to impress the opposite sex. The only people who aren't motivated by this are those who want to impress the same sex. Either you are straight or gay. So if you are not in a relarionship or trying to get in one, then you are probably gay and don't want to admit it.
2006-10-22 14:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
waiting for the right person....i guess
2006-10-22 14:32:53 · answer #10 · answered by puffy dragon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋