But he has money to spend on stuff for himself...
2006-10-22 14:16:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Gather the bills and present him with due dates for his share. Let him know that this is his last chance to pull his weight. Or, if you give him any other deadline--two months, two weeks, whatever to pay up and doesn't, then you need to stick to your limit and follow through!!!
For example, if after that he still ignores you and won't help, present him with an eviction notice; it is the legal way to do it and he cannot ignore this the way he's been ignoring YOU or your struggle to keep you both afloat.
Another option after asking him to pay up or leave could be to simply get home before him, put his things out on the stairs (but protected so that no one can steal it or you might very well be responsible for his lost or damaged property), and get a locksmith in. (Is his name also on the lease? If so, this might complicate things)
Another option: If the deadline passes, place a roommate wanted ad and start showing the place. Whether he comes home and finds people interviewing for his room or takes phone calls at home inquiring about the rommate ad placed that might wake him up. But, again, hopefully you will then serve him with an eviction notice if he still has not paid and then later inform him that "Tammy" will now be moving in by Nov. 15th and he has to completely vacate by Nov. 14th. .
With his behavior, he is disrespecting you, stealing from you, and playing you for a fool. Don't let him get away wtih it. Let him pull that stunt on some other foolish woman. He's certainly not marriage material--forget about him being boyfriend material no less. You can do bad all by yourself, so get in gear and find someone new who will treat you better whether that's your newest boyfriend and/or newest roommate. .
2006-10-22 14:37:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out! If he is not helping with the bills, he is just using you. Especially if he has enough money to buy things for himself! Open your eyes! You are being used!
2006-10-22 21:23:31 · answer #2 · answered by Yoda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is to make him your "Living- Somewhere-Else" boyfriend. He is a free-loader and is taking advantage of you.
Before asking him to leave, you should get together all your monthly bills (rent, heating, food, etc) and total it up and tell him that from now on he will have to contribute half of the total if he intends to live there.
If he will not do it, then suggest that he lives elsewhere.
2006-10-22 21:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that if he intends to live with you, he needs to pay for some of the bills to make things fair. If he is unwilling to pay his share, you may want to consider finding him a new place to live.
2006-10-22 21:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called a J-O-B!
2006-10-22 21:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by BabyGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋