We just started talkin bout a month ago and tonight she admitted she has a crush on at least 2 other people. I was hurt... I aint even gon try to act hard! Bcuz I thought If she agreed to b in a relationship with me then I should be tha only one she is attracted to or have special feelings about. Im just hurt right now. Should I break up with her bcuz that attraction and those feelings gon be there. And I aint tryna get hurt even more than I am later on. Any suggestions on what I should do?
2006-10-22 14:14:23 · 10 answers · asked by texas_420_stud 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
dump her
2006-10-22 14:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by CeKaye L 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Indy T. What's wrong with having crushes on people? My brother is happily married and everytime a pretty and/or sexy girl walks in front of us, his eyes follow her... but that's just about it. It's just plain admiration, nothing more, nothing less. It's pretty harmless unless the person does something about it, or in this case, your girlfriend.
Since u two are in a relationship, then be open and honest about your feelings. Tell her you're hurt that she has crushes on these people and let her know that you don't like it. It's better to be honest than hide stuff like this especially when it concerns your feelings. She'll probably thank you for being honest about it.
You're lucky that you're in a relationship so please, don't break up with her just because of that. It happened to me once... I was jealous and broke off w/ my g/f and she didn't speak to me for months coz she said it was petty and immature. So just take it easy and relax. If your g/f loves you then those crushes are just that, crushes. Love and trust go together, so if you love her, then you trust her as well to be faithful. ;o)
2006-10-23 02:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by mags 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I disagree completely. First you actually must be doing something right if she felt comfortable enough to admit to those other crushes to you. Second, there isn't anything wrong in finding someone else fascinating, you can't help your feelings and emotions. The issue would arise if she actually ACTS on those feelings and considering she told you about them, obviously she isn't planning on pursuing those interests. If you were going to "cheat" would you be so dim as to admit it beforehand?
Think about things before you freak. You might just blow a really great relationship by overreacting.
2006-10-22 21:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you say foursome??
lol
Just sit down and talk to her. It's perfectly ok to admire someone else, you know, the old rule, you can look but you can't touch. That's kind of how being in a relationship is. You can look and think to yourself damn he's hot or whatever, but actually acting on it is what you shouldn't be doing. She's comfortable enough to share her true feelings with you maybe you need to be more secure with yourself and your relationship with her, and be more open with her.
2006-10-22 22:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by JR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. When someone commits themselves into a relationship; they're with YOU. They shouldnt be crushing on anyone other than you -
Eventually the crushes could lead to other things, and you're most likely going to get hurt more in the end.
Its really not fair to put yourself through something like that, believe me; Ive been there and been trampled on, plenty.
Find yourself someone that respects you, that feels something for you, on a mature level. ... unlike your current gf.
Good Luck with everything; theres someone out there that is worth your time..
2006-10-22 21:28:13 · answer #5 · answered by llsoinlovell 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have to agree with you -
if you were beginning to date with an open relationship it would be different
if you began dating exclusively then your intentions should be towards each other only
perhaps it is best to step back to being able to date openly - that way you know exactly where you stand for it is obvious that the feelings are not as strong for you as what you have for her
best wishes!
2006-10-22 21:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't help getting crushes... I mind-cheat on my gf a lot, and I always tell her "just because you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu"... to which she replies "as long as you don't sample the buffet, we're good"
Don't worry about it as long as she only looks and doesn't touch
2006-10-23 13:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by Phedre D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her.She's not the right girl for you.
2006-10-22 22:19:44 · answer #8 · answered by hopeless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's to immature to be in a relationship...get rid of her..your worht more than that..
2006-10-22 21:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont know dump her she seems too think u dont have feelings.
2006-10-22 21:20:46 · answer #10 · answered by Taylor c 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋