Ok I've been fingered with two fingers before. I kind of just got the hang of that, and it doesn't hurt me as much afterwards as it used to. There's some discomfort, but I think that's kind of normal. anyways, if I've been fingered with two fingers before, and I have sex for the first time, how badly do you think it would hurt?
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2006-10-22 14:10:50 · 10 answers · asked by souper_nerd 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
He has an average sized penis, not too large and not too small
2006-10-22 14:17:02 · update #1
I think that completely depends on your body and your boyfriend's body. Most women have mild to moderate discomfort which is normal. It shouldn't take too long for your body to get used to it. If the pain persist or is unbearable try going to the gyno. My personal experience is one I hope you do not have to go through. I've been having sex for the past 3 months (I recently got married in July and was a virgin until then) and it is still extremely painful for me to have sex even after weeks. After visiting the doctor he explained to me the several things I'm facing and offered a few ways to get through it. He also pointed out a few things I wasn't aware of about my body, such as my bony structure is so narrow compared to the average woman that I may not be able to have natural birth. While is it still very painful, my husband is being very patient with me and hopefully this won't last much longer. But relax and take it slow, it may hurt, it may not, everyone is different. If it does try to relax and let your boyfriend know he needs to be gentle or slow down. There may be some slight bleeding, but nothing to worry about, it also helps to do foreplay and to really get in the mood, and don't forget lubrication like KY jelly. I hope you have a much easier time than what I'm going through, so enjoy your special moment because no one can tell you exactly what to do, it is your own experience to find out what works best for you and how you body will take it.
2006-10-22 15:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by maldmb03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It obviously depends on how big he is; i just had sex for the first time and it hurt like you wouldn't believe (I'm 21), but my bf is.. quite large. The best advice i can give you is foreplay foreplay foreplay. Have him do whatever to you that you like best, for as long as you think you need; then I found that if he works it in gently, starting quite shallow and pumping it in and out and gradually more and more (you should control this, obviously), makes it alright. My bf was awesome about it but its been a week or two and its still pretty rough if i don't get enough foreplay. best of luck!
2006-10-22 14:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by CardsFanMD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it depends on the size.... My ex was huge and it hurt anytime he did it too hard I swear I could feel it near my belly button!!!!!
But if hes reasonable size than just make sure he does lots of fingering and foreplay and very wet so it goes in easier, try to relax ur pelvic muscles and all the other ones around there.
Good luck hunnie;)
2006-10-22 14:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by Elley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lubricant (like KY jelly, etc.) Make sure the label indicates that it won't harm condoms. Place a little of the lubricant inside your vagina before you're with your boyfriend. It's normal to be a little nervous, so foreplay may not work as well as if you weren't nervous, so the lubricant is good to use the first few times.
Make sure that the condom your partner uses is a lubricated one, too.
2006-10-22 14:21:33 · answer #4 · answered by Yogini108 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's still gonna hurt. Unless you've been stretching yourself out with a vibrator or a dildo. Like inserting it a lot further than fingers.
2006-10-24 16:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time did hurt, but only the first time. Relax. You will be sore for a couple of days. I would agree that the first time will be short.
2006-10-22 14:28:37 · answer #6 · answered by catzrme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although my first time was with someone who was considered average size, I didn't have any pain at all. He was gentle and knew it was my first time. It all depends on your partner and if they are willing to be patient with you. Good luck....it won't be your best tie so don't get your hopes up about that. It does get better and better everytime...
2006-10-22 14:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by BIZ Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can use fingers or even a small dildo, but once you have sex it will be a completely new sensation. and yes it does HURT!!!
2006-10-22 14:23:31 · answer #8 · answered by tru_blu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats awesome. Ur my new hero. I dont know though, ima dude, and a virgin
2006-10-22 14:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by Donny B 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋