im kinda wondering if i should tell my family/friends that im bi. im 13, female, 8th grade, and have been secretly bi for 1 1/2 yrs.one person from my family is a lesbian and one close friend from school is bi too. my cuzin lesbian, they are uneasy around her[my family] and i dont want my family too be uneasy around me. my familyare christains and they will bombbard me w/ bible stuff about the homosexuals. should i tell my family?School: when my school friend told our friends they got freaked out and have been uneasy around her ever since. i dont want them too do that too me. some ppl have told me that i shouldnt tell ne1 at all but i kinda fell i have too, then i dont wanna tell them. so should i tell them [ family/friends]? if i should; how should i tell them? help plz?! and dont tell me im too young too be bi. thanx=]
2006-10-22 14:10:29 · 6 answers · asked by Taylor c 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You shouldnt.They will just discover it later.
2006-10-22 17:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by hopeless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definately not to young to know that you are or to be bi. I applaud you on knowing so early. I felt like you when I was 13 but hid it until I was 21.
The lesson I learnt was you either tell no one or you tell them all. I told my friends because they half suspected it. I didn't tell my family because like yours they are Christian. Big mistake. My family found out.
It was not pretty then. Not from the Christian point of view but from the fact that I hadn't been up front with them. I was scared of their reaction too but in hindsight I should have told them outright.
My fathers family is deeply religious yet we have two gays in it. I don't think that Christianity should make a difference - I think that it is about the love. It's not very Christian to judge.
As for your friend - she may be a little weirded out yes. You will find in time she should adjust to it. If not what kind of friend is she. She may also just need a bit more maturity behind her to understand what you are feeling.
2006-10-22 15:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not too young to know that you are bi. I was well aware of it when I was your age, and if you talk to most GLBT adults they will tell you they always knew, or they knew by puberty.
However, you are in a situation where you need to make some wise choices. Think about why you want to come out to your family and school when you know that the consequences may be beyond your control. At 13, your parents can make your life a living hell. If you are not strong enough to withstand that, you could find yourself lost in a mire of drama that will effect your life well into adulthood.
My personal advice is to keep your mouth shut, get what you can out of your family life, and then when you are not dependent on them, let them know. I didn't do that, and if I had it to do all over again, I would have kept my mouth shut and let them send me to college. I had to give all that up when I was finally thrown out of the house at age 17 while still in high school. Right or wrong, again, this is my personal advice, keep your mouth shut until you are older.
However, you do have an ally, your cousin. Talk to her, tell her your fears and since she is closer to your family, I think you can trust her advice.
Good luck to you, and be strong. You actually are at the beginning of a wonderful life where you have the freedom to actually love people for who they are, and not worry about their sexuality.
2006-10-22 14:57:25 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not understand how Christians can be judgemental about things like that if they are true Christians. I use to think the same way as the rest of them, and then I noticed that the part about homosexuality was in the old testament and Jesus came and changed all of that and that there is no Commandment that says you can not be gay, even though God did destroy a whole city because of it.
I like to think of God this way as a Father, a Divine Parent to all of us! I love my children dearly and if one of them were to come out of the closet and tell me that she was a lesbian, I could love her no less than if she was straight, I could not disown her for her preference, she is my child, a part of me. And I don't see how God or any parent who loves unconditionally could be that way towards thier own child(ren).
In your case, I would suggest that you not come right out and tell them upfront, but begin giving subtile hints, like when you are with your family members and see a girl that you find attractive, make comments on what you like and if they ask you about it, just say " and what if I was?"
That should give you the answer to if they are ready for that bit of information or not.
2006-10-22 16:29:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, ur not too young, u've realized that, and its fine. The thing is, yea, iknow whatur saying about the crazy Christian parents, but u should tell them now, cuz once ur older, they will have accepted the fact by then, its not like ur senior prom, ur like, i wanna go with a girl... and their like WHAT? So, yea, go for it sweety! (Im a straight male)
2006-10-22 14:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by Donny B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO IT, THEYLL GET USED TO IT
2006-10-22 14:16:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋