what are the stages to cheating?
Do u ever think about your spouse before having sex with the other person?
Do u think about the other person when having sex with your spouse?
Do u feel guilty?
Do talk to that person about your spouse?
After getting caught y do u claim to have alway loved your spouse?
2006-10-22 14:08:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-10-22 14:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cheated on my ex husband when i was married. The main reason i cheated is because he was not meeting my emotional needs, and i needed to feel attractive again because of the marriage and self esteem issues, it was a bad marriage, and the cheating didnt help. I divorced him. When i cheated, the first stage was the consideration and the temptation. Then it was the meeting of the person of the affair, then the situation, the how was it going to happen and where, the chemestry and lust, and the feeling of a rush of what was happening. Then came the event, and the rush again of you know you were doing something so wrong but it felt soo good. Then repeating the rush. No i dissasociated myself from my ex when i was cheating, like a roleplay. Yes i thought about the other person when i had sex with my ex husband. At first i felt guilty, but the payoff of the rush and the boost of self esteem kept me going. On an occasion i would talk about my ex, the people that i had an affair with knew i was married, thats why they thought it was a rush. When i got caught, or admitted it, i flat out told him i didnt love him, because i didnt, i wouldnt have cheated if i truely loved him.
2006-10-22 14:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by magickitty0621 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm no relationship expert but in my own personal opinion and experience there are four stages: 1) break down of emotional bond between you and spouse 2) lack of communication, including sex, 3) looking for someone else that will listen or at least hang out with you and the last 4) you and that person become more than just friends (hint, hint)
2006-10-22 14:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not as black and white as some would want it to be. Some mental illness as well as emotional disorders can contribute to cheating which has nothing to do with the innocent spouse except that they are the ones hurt. Sometimes cheating is a way of hurting yourself, a way of self harm and the same as some addictions.
2006-10-22 14:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by yumbby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thoughts of the injured party come and go.usually feel guilty. yes i'd talk about spouse.And i do love him,I don't know why i do it. I know it's wrong.I just go back to it over and over.I'm not a confesser though. i get no pleasure from hurting anyone much less the one i love.
2006-10-22 14:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You reap what you sow.
2006-10-22 14:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋