My wife of three years and i are getting a divorce. In the idiotic state of NC, we must wait a year. We have 90 days left and counting, and she tries to lure me back in. She tried to entice me with one last ****. I saw through that and refused. She said she wanted to start over as bf and gf after the divorce. I said no. She even tries to have phone sex with me. Still no. Now she likes to talk on the phone to me about some of the good things that were in our marriage. There weren't that many good things. In fact what started this whole thing was her screwing around and getting me in trouble with my commanders(military). She also has a restraining order on me. She also accused me of marital rape. Yet I get constant phone calls from the private number, which is her. I don't want to stay married to her and thanks to the restraining order, i've been a free man for 9 months. I've gotten more booty in the past 9 months than i've gotten in years. How do i get this monkey off of my back?
2006-10-22 14:04:16 · 9 answers · asked by Thomas K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is not the first time we've come close to divorcing, but this is the closest we have come. Every time in the past, she would have a change of heart and try to work things out. I have found that each time it got worse, and i'm really tired of the cycle.
2006-10-22 14:31:47 · update #1
If that isn't the "pot" calling the "kettle" black?
You can't use her messing around anymore as an excuse since you also have been as you said, " gotten more booty in months than ....in years.".
She is your wife and NC grants the 1 year to allow for reconcilation. If she can forgive you for your infidelity you should be able to forgive her. People do all kinds of crazy things when a marriage is going sour. You are so busy trying to be the "big man" by denying her etc...that you are missing the bigger picture. No one is going to say or think ," wow, he's such a desirable guy he saw thru his wife and refused her.". She's your wife still and wives are supposed to desire their husbands even if they've been dippin their wick in every vat that's open.
If you don't love her anymore then just say so. Tell her that you want to continue sleeping around and aren't interested in being a husband. Wait the 90 days and go your own way.
2006-10-22 14:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont know for sure about N. C. , but in Illinois and most states, that restraining order is a 2 way street , bud. If she violates it by contacting you , she can go to jail !, It's not just against you, it means she has to avoid being near you exactly like you are to avoid her!!!
Plus, if she keeps this up you might want to see if there is a stalking law there, like Illinois, Kind of sounds like that is what she is doing to you.
2006-10-22 14:13:12 · answer #2 · answered by motohype 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea dude. Just wait the 90 days out. Try not to answer the phone when you see her calling. Or heck, better yet, get a new phone number and keep it unlisted.
The best way of not talking to her is to NOT talk to her.
2006-10-22 14:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by ebola_guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She bothers you because YOU let her. Never take a call from her. NEVER have a converstation with her. Never be in the same place with her. If you answer the home and it is her. JUST Hang up immediatly. I just don't understant WHY you talk to her then you complain about it. Learn to say NO, Maybe change your phone number.
Talk to your commander and tell him you are having problems with her stalking you. If your phone recond shows that you answer her calls and spend time talking to her, it shows that you aren't staying away from her.
Be strong and firm. NO more communication with her.
2006-10-22 14:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello Thomas
Request transfer to another duty station - with your orders confirmed and yur bags packed, have your lawyer tell her lawyer that you'll sign the papers and mail them back.
Good luck to you
2006-10-22 14:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by Prof. Cochise 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get caller ID or move and change your phone number—give that information only to your lawyer. January is not that far away.
2006-10-22 14:10:03 · answer #6 · answered by DrB 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should be ashamed of your actions. Even if you are separated you are still married. At least have the decency to wait till you are divorced. If you can't be faithful to your wife who you vowed to "have and to hold till death do us part," how can you keep any other promises such as the one to your country?
2006-10-22 14:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
well wait till yall are divorce or just call the police or threatin to
2006-10-22 14:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by lily pad fat =( 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have 90 days keep counting
2006-10-22 14:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by san_ann68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋