and so do i because i was born when they were not married + lost of other stuff. They are still not married and never were. I cant talk to my mom because it turns into a mess...I wish he loved me but he has made it clear that he does not. What can i do to restore my relationship with my dad.?????? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-22 13:54:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A tough question to answer without knowing A LOT MORE. Just understand that you need to "do unto others as you would have them do unto you". So I suggest you keep telling him you love him, and try your best to love him. Eventually he will come around.
And what is the worst if he doesnt... You loved him and he left. Find someone else to love. Never stop loving or you will die inside. You must give love to be able to receive love properly. And when you give love it comes back to you 10x. Just dont give up.
2006-10-22 13:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by calcdffirefighter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a terrible situation,and I'm sorry it's happening to you.
If your parents are'nt married,then there is a reason for that. Is this man your biological father?. Do you think your mom cheated on him,which produced you?. You have the right to know why your parents won't talk to you about such issues. Once you've become an adult,and you find out about certains things,that they should be telling you about now,will cause pain and resentment. If they still refuse to talk,then I can only suggest one thing; have a talk with your Grandparents,or maybe another adult relative. I'm sure they have the answers to your problem. Tell them you need to hear the truth,but be prepared to hear it. (PS) Sometimes the truth hurts,but it can also set you free!
2006-10-22 21:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up with a dad that did not love me either & he was married to my mom. I was born when he was in the war in Europe so I was 2years old when he first saw me. He let me know for years that he thought I was not his. He treated me different then my 3 other brothers (born after he came home).You just have to try & work on your relationship with him. Ask him why he does not like you..Just do what I did with my dad. Remind him I will always be his child weather he want me to be or not.It took 20 years but we are friends now.I wish you the very best of luck. You never know , maybe it will work for you like it did for me. I sure hope so//
2006-10-22 21:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by BUTCH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you feel that you want a relationship with a man you know does not love you. Just because you share the same DNA does not make you father and daughter. Those relationships begin and end with love. Find something better for yourself. Maybe try volunteering somewhere. You'll find that love that is freely bestowed is the most rewarding. Good Luck.
2006-10-22 21:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, I'm so sorry. I wish there were something I could tell you to give you the answer you want to hear, but the unfortunate truth is, there's nothing you can do. If the man doesn't want to love you, there's nothing you can do to make it happen. The only advice I can offer is, don't allow him to exit completely from your life, he may change his mind later. Hang in there!
2006-10-22 21:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by eyeque195 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your dad is saying that he hates you something is wrong with him.Your his on blood so he shouldn't be saying that stuff...I don't think you can restore your relationship with him unless he actually wants to..You can't force a person to do something they don't want to..
2006-10-22 20:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a good daughter and be patient. We can't force people to love us actually not even when we do good things for them. Sometimes there's a kind of stigma they attach to us so that everything we do just turns out negative.. patience.. patience.. love and forgiveness.. Just love him as he is..
2006-10-22 21:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by Ai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well learn to work out your problems with your dad and live on.
2006-10-22 20:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...you're dad says he does not love you? if that's the case, as hard as it may be, you have to be the mature person and accept that he's not what's best for you no matter the familial tie.
2006-10-22 20:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by Omni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats tough! ??i dont know my dad so?? what i would do is try to spend time with him. let him know thatt you whant to recanect wit him. tell him that you love him and you would do what ever it takes to make him love you back! GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-22 20:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋