I'm beginning to think I have *serious* issues. I've barely spoken to this guy, just a few conversations on a public board online, some flirting, and 1 IM conversation... but then I went back and read a bunch of of his postings on the same site, to get an idea of who he is. His writing & postings are *amazing* -- he's amazing -- and I'm already ridiculously jealous and reading his sickeningly flirty coversations with this one other girl. (It's not all girls, just this one other.) It literally makes me nauseous to see their outrageous chemistry & flirtation. And now I can't eat, can't think, can't sleep, I just keep thinking about him. If all this weren't bad enough, I'm 28 & he's 22-ish, and he lives on the other side of the country, so these are crazy thoughts anyway.
The other problem is, that other girl I see him talking to is amazing too. Smart as a whip, confident, funny. Plus she's his age.
Ugh, what the hell is wrong with me, and what should I do to deal w/this?
2006-10-22 13:34:55 · 13 answers · asked by melon_rose 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
tell him how you feel and see what he thinks....you have to take a chance sometime? I met my husband on here..we were both involved with someone else ...but we become really good friends. I was single for almost a year and he was single for 7 months before we decided to meet. I knew he was the one from the first date! We have been happily married for 3 years and going strong. I was diagnosised with cancer last year and I dont think I could have made it through all of this without him. He is my best friend....I tell my single friends...being married to him is like have a slumber party with your friends every night..kinda hard to go to sleep (if you know what I mean).lol
2006-10-22 13:49:07 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be careful on line. Many people you meet there are not what they appear. Some men are great at deception (women too). It may feel harmless but it can turn into more. Once the prey is sucked in, it is chewed up and spit out. You dont know this man. He may sound charming and may be a serial killer, rapist, abuser, bandit, old man (70 or 80), or may even be another woman. Computers can be a great disguise and many hide behind it. Dont ever tell a person on the internet important info about you. This person can track you down and show up at your door, I know where this has happened and the guy was wacko, looney.
Even though you are an adult just please be careful. If you wnat to hook up with someone that way get on the dating agencies who screen the people you meet.
What if this person is charming but 400 lbs? What if he has no job (lying) and never intends to work? What is he is married (75% are)? What if he is handicapped and just playing around with the computer? What if he is gay and just messin with your mind?
Stay away you could get burnt bad. Stop talking with him and do it in a safer way.
2006-10-22 13:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't answer why? But I can say that I have been there. The man I fell for said things that were so what I needed to hear that I fell in computer love. We talked evey night and I had the jealousies and everything. You know what, he moved on and now I wander, he could have been 1200 pounds, broke, married 4 times and not even own a computer. He could have been in a library some where ... you just cannot trust what goes on here. Not in the least. Be careful
2006-10-22 13:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please take NO offense to my post to you but please get off the computer for a while. Get out and meet some REAL LIFE people.
Something may be going on with you, while you are looking for love on the interent public boards. Maybe you have been hurt before and this feels kind of safe for you, there is no real chance on meeting this person. So its ok to "think" you are falling in love. No real chance of you getting hurt. Is any of this making sense to you?
Get out and meet some people and dont look for love or a realtionship on a public board, who really knows what is really behind the computer.
Please always be very very careful and never give out any personal info about your self.
I hope you will be ok!!!
good luck and please take care!!
2006-10-22 13:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing it wrong with you! you like this guy, plain and simple...dont think and of your ideas are crazy.....and dont freak out...you just really like him thats all.... stop and think about why you are so crazy about him....then fallow your heart...dont listen to all of the negetive feedback people will give...and dont even listen to your negative thoughts...sometimes the heart knows things the brain doesn't....go with your instincts. talk to him some more...tell him how you feel(but u might want to leave out the cant eat cant sleep part- might come off a little strong:) but just talk to him some more....no harm in that....then fallow your heart.good luck!
2006-10-22 14:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by Ellen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's something wrong....and you're telling yourself different things....just a little confusion.
Do you really want someone in your life that makes you "sick" as you say?.........maybe you just want someone.....
......so giver yourself a chance to attract more than 1 person, and you are right to choose not to be this way because you are complaining....that it's not working for you.
Good for you! You are seeing what you don't like and are saying "hmmmmm, something's wrong"...so choose not to react when you feel that way....back off..breathe....and breathe again.
Honor your God Given Right to Choose ..what's right for you!
2006-10-22 13:44:13 · answer #6 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense but you sound like an eleven year old with a crush. Perhaps you need some professional help.
2006-10-22 13:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a hold of your self and breath for a minute
it is so easy to get caught up in all of this.
be aware of your motivations and emotions
do nothing. concentrate on yourself and use all of that tingily energy towards your own goals.
see what happens
2006-10-22 13:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by Shake-Zula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should be wise and wait more time letting u self to know him closely ...And i think that the old between u and him will affect the relationship so u should be wise.
2006-10-22 13:55:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been their done that! Eat somthing no man or guy is worth the agravation. If he wants her he wants her and if he wants you then you know that you belong together.
2006-10-22 13:46:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋