have a 2 month old baby and his family does not know about us why wont he tell them
2006-10-22 13:25:06 · 27 answers · asked by HARLUN S 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Other - Entertainment
sweetie i know exactly how you feel, i have been married to my Muslim husband for a year and a half, and im now four months pregnant and he refuses to tell his parents. islamically a Muslim man should get married before having sex and certainly before having children. the best thing for you to do is try to tell them yourself. otherwise he will leave you and nobody will know about you or the baby. be sure to get child support from him. i know you love him and he might say the same thing but he is just going to screw you over.
email me if you want to talk, it seems that we are both in the same situation. Joleen923@yahoo.com
2006-10-22 13:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by tru_blu 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The news is not good. If he were serious about you, his family would have known. He is not a good Muslim in that he has had relations with you. He would have wanted to marry you in the Muslim tradition if he were a good man.
You are in a very tough situation, especially now with the baby. He does not consider you his wife, I am sure of that. I am sorry to be so blatant with these facts, but in the long run, you are better off knowing the score, I wish you good luck.
2006-10-22 13:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it would bring shame on his family. Sad to say it but true. Most Muslim families want to see their son or daughter marry in to the same religion. For his family to admit to the Muslim community that their son has a child out of wedlock to a non -Muslim female would possibly mean their exile and his from the community.
2006-10-22 13:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by Tabbyfur aka patchy puss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine started seeing a Muslim guy but whenever his parents came to stay she had to remove all her stuff from out of his flat. It was demoralising and shameful and she eventually broke it off. She was heartbroken as she perceived it that he was ashamed to be with an English woman. He apparently told her that it wasn't that he was ashamed but he would never go against his parents - he would eventually marry a Muslim woman! Its the best of both worlds for a Muslim man!
Face some hard facts :-
1. He must marry a muslim woman
2. He wants to please his family
3. He will ignore/leave you whenhe finally decides to settle for his chosen bride
4. He will treat your marriage and baby as non-existent
5. He may take the baby and disappear
Please get some legal advice and know where you stand. If he refuses to acknowledge his marriage and more important ly his child, he is not man enough for you and you should deserve better. It will break your heart but you may have to kick him to the kerb and move on with your life.
2006-10-22 14:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
im assuming your white and non-muslim, so sorry but hes not telling them because he's ashamed of you to the extent that if he does tell them they will disown him, besides which he may even already have a bride lined up through an arranged marriage, we see it all the time where we are in Bradford, AKA Bradistan, now please dont think im racially prejudiced, my future sister in law is asian muslim as are her and her husbands family, she was adopted by my fiance's mother but raised as a muslim as requested by her grandfather at the time of adoption, so back to the question, many young asians are westernised up to a point, and see the fact that they are going out with a white girl as pretty cool among they and their friends, but their family wouldnt be too happy about it, consequently the asian lad finishes up marrying an asian girl and the white girl either ends up a lonely single mum, or the mistress at his beck and call when it suits him, time for you to ask him where you stand i think, and make up your mind what you want, it sounds to me as if you wont be joining his family at any time, so you should find out exactly what you do mean to him, good luck and i hope whatever happens you get a happy life that you deserve
2006-10-22 13:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by a1ways_de1_lorri_2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is breaking Islamic law - sex outside of marriage and his family will think you're a tramp because you are obviously not a virgin and may not be Muslim. He is not proud of his relationship w/you. The shame is that you have now introduced a child into a relationship that has little chance of permanence.
2006-10-22 13:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by Taffy Saltwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sis had a similar prob!
She was white with 2 children from previous relationship,she started datin an indian man--he adored the kids and her but his family would have nothing to do with him while they were together!! they took away his car his home and any links to family! It put alot of strain on the relationship and they broke up!---maybe u should ask him y and meet his family!!
2006-10-22 13:33:44 · answer #7 · answered by rachxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One you aren't muslim.
Two you are the wild oats he has sown.
Three It's going to get ugly when his parents hook him up with a nice muslim girl.
Are you getting Child support for this guy? If not, start the process now. Make sure he understands a baby is both an emotional and a financial responsibility.
2006-10-22 13:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by SpankyTClown 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh boy. The father of your child has very weak character. Despite some poor decisions on you're part, You're better off on your own.
2006-10-22 13:28:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe because the time is not right or something maybe he will tell his family later u can ask him why hes not telling too.
2006-10-22 13:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋