Im in college I have a roomate. We share everything. Last friday, my gospel choir had a car wash to raise money. I used some of the dish soap that we have in our bathroom.
Tonight my roomate was looking for it, I left it in my friends room. I went to go get it but it was almost empty. Now my roomate is freaking out and asking why all of it is empty. I told her what I used it for.
Now she saying oh i dint buy it for them to wash cars, and I asked what u cant share? then she repeated it, i told her the soap was 2 only 2 dollars and she said she dint have 2 dollars. im like u dotn have 2 dollars and ur working? she said the money shes geting is for her trip to jamaica and im like wow u cant spare 2 dollars?! i was like whatever im gonna buy another one.
why is this such a big deal?
2006-10-22 13:21:10 · 24 answers · asked by Tian 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the funny part is the day b4 she took some of that same dishsoap and put it in the hand soap container, so I asked why she couldnt just use that? and she says cuz its diluted. she acting like its a lost cause! God!
2006-10-22 13:28:22 · update #1
MS shut the hell up. what is flippant about what i said? maybe i should have added that she borke some figurines of mine that were worth 24 dollars and dint replace that.
2006-10-22 13:33:13 · update #2
she was part of the choir also, but she quit cuz she dint like the rules.
2006-10-22 13:34:01 · update #3
It's an overreaction but none-the-less, it was her soap and hence her right to share it or not. You should buy her another bottle of soap.
2006-10-22 13:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by reslstancelsfutlle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some people it's not really about money, but saying that it is is a defense mechanism. She does not really want to admit what is bothering her (which is obviously the fact that something she purchased is now empty). You're doing the right thing by buying another. Some people have not grown up having to share, so just try and understand her side. It's not about right and wrong when you have a roommate...just consideration. No need to fight.
2006-10-22 20:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by A Total Franny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have not learned how to share. It is not their fault, it is the family that they grew up with. Take it with a grain of salt and move on. If I were you, I would go to the dollar store and buy her 2 bottles of dish soap ( just to prove a point ). Best of luck to you.
2006-10-22 20:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by itsa b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the point is respect, like she just doesn't want things missing when she wants to use them. It seems to be an overreaction, but she is probably thinking something like "if I let this one go, what will be missing next time?"
A good way to diffuse this is to suggest you both put $10 or $20 in an envelope in a common area, and if someone forgot something or something ran out and the person didn't have time to replace it, the other can use the money in the envelope and put the receipt in the envelope when they replace it themselves.
I think if you assure her you didn't mean to forget about replacing it and you'll do your best to remember next time, but to please not take it personally, that's a good step to reconnect.
2006-10-22 20:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by lulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not the 2 dollar bottle of soap that is the problem. There is some other problem on her mind, this is just a way for her to vent, ask her what the real problem is and be honest with you.
2006-10-22 20:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by notalucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a big deal because you used something that didn't belong to you. You used the soap for a fund raising car wash, not for the dishes you or your roommate used. To use something that you didn't pay for yourself and to not replace it was rude. So I totally understand why it was a big deal.
2006-10-22 20:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by bratty brat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She definitely over-reacted, tell her to take a chill pill and since it was for a good cause, she really needs to take it easy. Go to the dollar store and buy her another one to shut her up.
2006-10-22 20:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by bonbon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to drag bottled water up the stairs (no elevator>>> 89 stairs) to get to my apartment. My roommate would sometimes take one and drink it. It made me really mad. It wasn't about the money, but why the heck would she drink my water? She didn't carry it up the stairs. You need to apologize to your roommate big time. It's a big deal, because you decided to use something that wasn't yours alone. She now thinks you don't care about her opinion.... I don't think it's about the money.
2006-10-22 20:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just needs something to gripe about. Tell her to get a life and go buy some dishsoap.
2006-10-22 20:25:40 · answer #9 · answered by lavada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes just upset cuz she expected you to ask if it was ok first, just get another one and apologize for using all of the last one, and forget about it. you have to live with this girl for a while so try to keep things friendly
2006-10-22 20:25:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋