Help! i married an arab, we have been married for 5 years but for the passed 2 years i have wanted to end it but stayed out of fear he would take my kids and run! we have now split and it's getting nasty. he is threatening me saying if i ever start another relationship or start socialising again he will take my kids to his country. what can i do? i know leagaly he couldn't but he isn't a law abiding citizen. PLEASE HELP!!!
2006-10-22 13:20:19 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he does not have the legal right to threaten you or to remove the children from this country without your express permission, you need to speak to a solicitor who specialises in family law and can advise you more on the legal aspects, but providing he has not been violent towards the children as their legal parent he does have rights of access, however due to his threats you can make sure that this is supervised access only in a mutually agreed place and with a social services worker present, a family solicitor can arrange for a court hearing, and if necessary a cafcass officer will be appointed to investigate on the courts behalf, if the father is found to be a threat to the children's welfare then he can have his parental rights taken from him legally by the court granting injunctions against him, which if he breaks them will result in him going to prison, but hurry go to a family solicitor, ASAP
2006-10-22 16:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by a1ways_de1_lorri_2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is definitely a danger that he could do that, and the chances of seeing them again would be slim.
First and foremost: If the children do not have passports, get them their own passports, and put them in a lockbox, and do not tell anyone about the lockbox. This won't prevent him from running with them, but it might slow him down some.
Record the phone calls or keep the letters threatening to take the kids. Get a lawyer and get it dealt with. He shouldn't be allowed to get near the kids ever again after a threat like that.
You may need to change your name and town.
2006-10-22 13:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by open4one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can take them, he isnt suppossed to take them out the country but he can get passports for them.
You MUST seek legal advise on this, and there are groups around for Mothers who face this situation, as it is quite common.
Has he been violent to you in the past, is it documented, ie police, hospital resports, this could be grounds for you moving away, and him having no contact.
Try to stay calm, it could just be he has found a way to scare you and use it as a form of control, getting yourself worked up and in a state wont help you or your kids.
Seek legal advise and then take it from there.
2006-10-22 13:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont take puppy talk if he wants to get those kids out of the country he would get and see someone put there passports in a safe lock up away from your home and go and see someone you need profesional help if hes that type of a bloke then do something a s a p get your butt down to the family solicitor and if he has any rites to time with those children go to court and stop it rite now DONT LET HIM HAVE THEM NOT EVEN FOR FIVE MINUTES
2006-10-23 07:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, this is a very bad situation. If he does happen to take your children and flee to his country, there is little if anything you can do once they are there. I think that this might be a good time to call a lawyer and perhaps get the authorites involved. DO NOT underestimate the severity of the situation.
2006-10-22 13:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him and go to a women's refuge so he cannot trace you...even if you have to leave the town you live in it will be better than having this animal threaten you like this....get away from him now...then file for a divorce...make sure he does not take your kids, he's a bully ans should be dealt with...sounds like a bit of a control freak to me...cant help reading the bit about socialising AGAIN..did he have you trapped? oh my lord...just leave and get away from this clown....don't be scared of him, just take off and don't contact him again
2006-10-22 13:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to get an attorney and also file for harassment. Get a restraining order and take his behind to court.
He is threatening you and you're in fear for your life and the safety of your children, right? It's only fair that he be punished for trying to instill fear into you.
2006-10-22 13:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laws in Arab countries are different to here. Be very careful. If he is going to do it he will.
I agree they are just not your kids but living in fear is not acceptable.
2006-10-22 20:13:09 · answer #8 · answered by PRIVATE Id 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are definately ina difficult position - this does happen and he may well take them all you can do is never leave them alone unless they are with someone you trust - move in with your parents or family for a while and get family legal advice. Once they are in arabia - whereever, you are unlikely to see them again, and yes, they do know people who will operate outside of the law
2006-10-22 13:27:08 · answer #9 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get a retraining order, and if he gets visitation for the children make sure they are supervised, document everything, phones, letters, anything that will help your case. Also get a lawyer that specialize in these kind of cases...Good Luck!
2006-10-22 13:26:46 · answer #10 · answered by Brezzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋