My wife has told me that she wants to separate from me. we have a 2 1/2 year old baby. She doesnt love me like a husband she loves me like a best friend. i want to spend the rest of my life with her. She is willing to try dating me while we are separated to see if that feeling can come back. Can it?????
2006-10-22 13:02:28 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's terrible that Hollywood has created this illusion of a marriage made of years and years of "romantic love" when in fact it changes to something deeper and more fulfilling. I have some friends that are constantly moving from relationship to relationship trying to find that unreal feeling forever. Your wife probably thinks that butterfly in the stomach jitters is the real thing. Give her some time if you are willing, she will see what the real world is like and realize what she had and lost. OR you could yourself look for someone who is more mature and won't put you through this torture while they "grow up"
2006-10-22 14:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by yumbby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this. My husband IS my bestfriend, so I am lost. The best advise I can give to you is to give her the space she needs. Date her, romance her. Make her remember why she fell in love with you in the first place. It seems that she may be trying to get the attention that was lost back. See if a family member can't keep the little one for a night or two and go somewhere you haven't been in a long time(pre-baby). Remind her she is a wife not just a mother. Good luck to you!
2006-10-22 13:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...this is very bad timing on her part, seeing as how you have a small child. I think that before you make the decision to split (or before you agree to her doing it), you should both seek some marriage counseling. This might help her sort out some of the feelings that she is having. It could simply be that she is feeling unsure of herself and going through a transitional period in her own life and thinks that the marriage is the thing that needs to change. Try to get some counseling for this before it's too late to do anything. Good luck! Keep your head up!
2006-10-22 13:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can definatley come back. Maybe she just needs to feel like you want her like you used to when you were dating. It gets tough sometimes to get the romance back in a relationship ecspecially after kids. Some people try counseling but some people try leaving because she doesnt know what else to do. You can date you can have a happily ever after. She just may need time...time from you she thinks she can only get if you think you are going to lose her. Best of Luck to you.
2006-10-22 13:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by littlemama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a possibility but I think she needs have some space to think about things right now. I've known a few couples that separate for a little bit only to get right back together. I would not apply any pressure right now but I wouldnt stop letting her know you love her and your family. Goodluck
2006-10-22 13:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by jaylynn_tx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. It all depends on what is going on with her. There is a 50/50 chance it can go either way. But at least she is willing to date while you are separated, so there is some hope.
2006-10-22 13:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definatly ouch! Ya it can come back. But in a situation like yours look for alterior motives. They could range from depression to there being somone else. Don't jump to conclusions though and be glad she is willing to date.
Good luck
2006-10-22 13:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by sirelyas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time apart might be good? but what has lead up to this? look at yourself, have you changed? has she changed? have you talked about counselling? Can you seek the advice of friends or family that can talk to both of you and not be bias? It is a lot to have young children and a marriage, it takes work, is she a stay at home mom? Do you support her in that? Make her feel special?, do you go on dates?
2006-10-22 13:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by ponyup 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it can't. The feeling was never there. She is telling you she'll date you out of pitty. Sounds like she's met someone else. The most important thing for you to do is be strong! Don't cry and plead. Keep your pride
2006-10-22 13:08:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure it can but you have to obviously be more romantic with her.
A wife is your best friend but she is also your partner. Therfore, you should always show the affection and love that any partner would want.
2006-10-22 13:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋