2006-10-22 12:57:54 · 11 answers · asked by Shineonu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is called stalking, and it is very dangerous. Please be careful!
God knows why people do this. It has something to do with low self-esteem, so I have never been able to understand it. My own response when partners have had the incredibly poor judgement to break up with me has been to leave them the heck alone. Their fate is to spend the rest of their lives without me. That's their tough luck! ;-)
2006-10-22 13:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by Hugh Mility 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only think of 2 real reasons...they want their cake and eat it too or they are so hateful they don't want to see you happy.
I have a young friend, who's husband is shacking up with another woman, and still wants his wife home wanting in the bed for him when he decides he wants her. Wrong..so wrong...He has ruined her chances with a very nice young man, threatened his life and everything. Why, he wants her as a cushion, just in case his new chickie dumps him. He needs to know he has a woman wanting for him, when he's done playing stud.
Mean and jealous. There are some out there-that just can't stand for an ex to be happy. They want them to be suicidal, hiding under the covers, crying their eyes out for them. It's sick, but it's true. No way can they live without me...they think this. Some people use the love you have for them against them. Say you love someone so totally, that you let them stomp on you, cheat on you, and in other words just use you all the time. But when you had enough, and say no more, This person who does not really love you, they justed us you, they can't or won't see you happy. It's a sick mind game. And sometimes it's a dangerous game. They can't let go.
Praying that you aren't experiencing this, and if you are that this ex of yours will find someone else to focus his attention on. And give you some much deserve peace.
God bless us all.................
2006-10-22 20:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she/he is emotionally attached to you and she/he wants to make sure that whoever is part of your life is not better than what was offered by she/he. Not knowing something can drive someone crazy because the mind takes over and creates all types of scenarios and these are usually not pleasant for the person who is in that situation. And in the back of her/his mind she/he may believe that an error in judgment was made. You clearly have moved on and are living your life. Curiously, I feel the person who asks for the split is more prone to the kind of behavior you describe (by the way, I am saying she/he because I am not sure of what the sex is of your Ex).
Think about a great movie - like Jaws. Why was it so good? Because Spielberg didn't show the shark until half of the movie was over. Up to that point, you only had your imagination to fill in the gap. That made the movie scarier. Get the idea!
2006-10-22 21:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they usually cannot let go and they have no life of their own so they tend to be more worried about what the ex spouse is doing yet they say they hate them so much perfect example my brothers ex said she hated him so much he filed for the divorce,she didn't want the divorce but when she realized that it was going to happen she told him as well as anyone in our family that she hated him even our mother then i went to court with him at his request and the first thing that came out of her attorneys mouth was that" His Client Doesn't Want A Divorce" my brother didn't change his mind and still thats all I hear from her is how much she hates him yet she spends plenty of her time trying to keep up with him and find out what he's doing even calling my mom to ask her has she seen him they do have a child together but when he tries to keep in contact with his child she won't let him talk to his child nor let the child talk to him without monitoring the call Now with that being said the exes that do this have way to much time on their hands and need a life of their own.
2006-10-22 21:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do not really hate you. But they are dangerous. This kind of personality can become so obsessed that they hurt or kill. Be very careful. And get a restraining order from the court. You might even consider moving away.Far away! This one still considers you his or her personal property. If you find a new love, you could be putting that person in danger also.
2006-10-22 20:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they say they hate you, but it isn't true, they might not like you right now, but they waste time and energy to see if you are getting over them or moving on! if you don't want to get back with this person, then just go on mindless dates and who knows you might actually find someone who actually likes you!!! LOL
2006-10-22 20:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by Andie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that they hate you because they're so upset about the breakup.
In most cases, they care about you deeply and are only trying to convince themselves that they're over you by using the hate word.
What most people don't realize is hate is such a strong word... and it shouldn't be used!
2006-10-22 20:18:36 · answer #7 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that she/he isn't over you yet. Or it could be that he/she wants to be the first one to find someone before you do. A competition kind of thing.
2006-10-22 20:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them and move on.
2006-10-22 19:59:56 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealous, they dont want you with anyone else.
2006-10-22 20:01:52 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋