and I was with a particular person for a year who had dementia, and recently had to turn the job over to someone else. I couldn't take the stress of the situation day after day anymore. Is there anyone else with similar job, and if so, how do you deal with it? How do you not "take it home with you" every day. I'm thinking of finding a different line of work, because I'm sinking into depression.
2006-10-22 12:37:02 · 6 answers · asked by Starscape 6 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
If your job is stressing you out because of the dementia one, contact your work and explain, and maybe get a new person. I have worked with dementia when it had turned to alzheimers and I was there during the combative state, I got hit a few times, my daughter is a nurse and she told me that you have to learn to be almost like a boxer, duck and cover. In my case it was an elderly woman, but she out-weighed me by 100 pds. I had to quit after too many times of getting hit and hurt. I loved her dearly, once you get past the combative state and they have the correct meds, they are people who have no idea what is going on with them. It really is a labor of love to care for that person. It can really be hard on a care giver tho. What is really bad that I ran in to, was the family hardly did anything, no visits, a rare phone call, they don't realize that even tho their mom didn't know who they were, they still like attention, funny movies, even cartoons, and music and whenever you can play like a kid would play and make them laugh, you will love what you do for them, because it is for them!! I will say if it would be a man, I could not have done it at all!! I've heard too many horror stories about men with these diseases. I too took home my work, and also depression, but take care of yourself first, do not be afraid to say you can't do for a person with a specific disease, there are a lot of people who need home care because they have no one else. Find out what you feel you can handle and look in to the disease, problems and give it a try, but don't let depression stop you, it will kill you, I know, I let my depression get too far, I have other health issues that have come after that!! So do for you!!! Good Luck!!!!
2006-10-22 12:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by like2talk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister used to work for a simular company> She learned how to seperate work from home. She just worked it out i think the main thing she did was have a good support system me and my family. She knew she could come home and talk to us about it. Sometimes u just need to vent and let the pressure off. My ex wife used to work at a call center she spent all day listening to people complain about their service some took it personal and called her names and wer very abusive. She not only came home and talked about her day but she also found a outlet such as making knecklace's and earrings. I was in the army talk about stressfull and since then i have had a heartattack and suffer from Post traumatic stress and depression. I do not take Meds for it though because i do not believe we need a pill for every little thing. So how do i cope u say. Well i zone i walk down back of my house with a folding chair set it up on the bank of the river pop open a can of soda or juice light a cigarette and chill. I watch the birds, muskrats, beavers, fish, and deer. Or maybe just watch the wind in the grass or the clouds in the sky. It helps to remind me that there is more than just me and my probs in this world and that there is beauty. It takes my mind off of everything and i relax. I guess my point is. To Find away to let go. And please remember take time to enjoy life or u wont have one.
2006-10-22 12:58:58 · answer #2 · answered by Vinny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello, i have worked with seniors for 15 years and if you are depressed, and you don't think you can handle it, you should find a new job. working with seniors especially with dementia takes alot of patience and love. Please don't take this the wrong way.
But you have been working with the person for a year and maybe it is time to change clients. don't feel bad , we all go through it.
But honestly it will not get better, may get worse. I would not want to see you go into depression because of your job. Life is so special and if you don't like what you do, remember you always have the opportunity to change it. How old are you?? Can you take another job?
2006-10-22 12:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound a like a caring person but yes these situations can be depressing and that is normal. I would advise you that if you want to keep working in this field then maybe you could get on some anti-depressant therapy. Or maybe you just aren't cut out for it - some people are, some people aren't.
Also remember - when you constantly give to someone else you will run out, unless you are able to be refilled with strength, perseverence and love. Spend some time in prayer asking God to refill you so you can give again.
2006-10-22 12:46:03 · answer #4 · answered by nursechic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 01:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have friends who have worked as care assistants and only one is still doing the job. She can leave it all behind when she goes home. I know I could'nt. Get out of it now. I know it's a caring job,but face facts, most people can't do it and your stress will only get worse if you're unhappy. Leave the job to someone who can distance themselves from it and find a job you're happy with. Good luck
2006-10-22 12:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋