.... of mine has strong feelings for me, even though he knows im married. How do i let him down gently without hurting his feelings?
2006-10-22 12:23:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If it is still only at the "think" stage, then don't do anything. What would that achieve? If he starts making a move, then you have to have a quiet word "like you a lot, but I'm married"...etc.
It's not impossible that he does have feelings, but isn't about to act on them, in which case, simply enjoy the attention. If he isn't trying to act on it, then it would be disrepectful to confront him, however gently.
But the bottom line is that he does have to respect your marriage and if he can't, or won't, then he can't be much of a friend.
2006-10-22 12:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he's truely your friend, he should understand. Let him know how you feel about the situation. You never know, you may have even mis-understood him. Either way, it's best to clear the air and resume your friendship if possible.
2006-10-22 12:44:33 · answer #2 · answered by Fragile Rock 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is no letting him down gently.. that will only make him pursue you more.. let him know, u are married and don't mess around... threaten to tell your husband...he will get the message.. nip it in the buckle now, before it gets ugly. and trust me, it will if you don't
2006-10-22 12:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by Niecy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him and tell him that your married and in love with your other half its the best thing to do! Just be straight with him!
2006-10-22 13:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by filmstu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u don't ,u no the saying cruel 2 b kind
2006-10-22 19:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont. you have to be very frank with him. if not you could leave doubt. some men take no as meaning not now, or try harder
2006-10-22 12:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by jewels 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him to do one and not to come bak . it will be worth it in the end. he is no friend or he wouldnt put you in this situation or ask you
2006-10-22 12:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you still want to be his friend u must try to be with sum1 else or even your husband when your around........ but dont act strange!!!
2006-10-22 20:39:29 · answer #8 · answered by debbie d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you think anything of ur spouse then i dont think you have to be gentle.if you dont then,well,thats up to you.
2006-10-22 12:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by emma m 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
agrees with everyone else
2006-10-22 14:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋