2006-10-22 12:08:58 · 34 answers · asked by mslady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go to a Christian church in your neighborhood.. Talk to a pastor and ask for prayer. Don't make drastic decisions. Think of the children. God restored my marriage and is better than before...He can do it for you but you need to have faith in Him. Plus you need to ask Jesus in your heart. Get "Power of a Praying Woman" by Stormie Omartian and read. It is an eye opener in life. All will be fine.
You see 2 yrs. ago satan was telling me how unhappy I am in my marriage etc...and I almost started believing it and throwing divorce to my husband here and there. I praise God my husband was patient with me. I started praying about it bc I knew Prayer is Powerful. Some months went by and I started looking at my marriage in a different perspective. More loving and not being so negative.
Satan wants to destroy you, your children and marriage. DON"T LET HIM!
I pray you choose Jesus! The truth will set you free. Not the lies that Satan is whispering to you.
God Bless!
2006-10-22 12:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are COMPLETELY sure that divorce is what you want, I think that you just need to come right out and say it. You should make sure that the kids are taken care of (maybe at a friend's house or a grandparent's house) and you should make sure that you do it at home, I think this will make it easier for your spouse to take. You should work out what you want to say ahead of time so that you can make sure that you say exactly what you mean. Don't get in an arguement, and once you tell your spouse, you might want to give them space, maybe go and stay at a friend or relative's house yourself, so that your spouse has some time to think.
2006-10-22 14:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the situation where having a Marital Counselor help you two work on the relationship and the separation (if you do decide to go through with it) helps. That way, a disinterested 3rd party can help you both deal with the breakdown of the marriage and how to be civil during the divorcing process. It is especially important with children involved.
2006-10-22 12:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by sglmom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, stop and think. Is your happiness the most important thing in the world? Is it all about you?
You have 3 children. They didn't ask to be brought into your mess, you wanted to be "happy" so you had children. Now, you are ready to break their hearts, possibly break you husband's heart and throw dynamite into a family thinking that will make you happier.
Will it?
Try thinking about making your husband happier, tell him what makes you happy (instead of griping about your unhappiness) and work from there. Stop watching soap operas and stop thinking he or anyone else is responsible for your happiness.
Happiness and unhappiness both come from within, not from without.
2006-10-22 12:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suggest counseling. You could either go in with the intention of staying together, and in that case, it might help you to change your relationship into something you're happy with, or you could go as a sort of courtesy to your current husband, so that he understands that you're really not happy and not just trying to get out quickly because of an affair or something.
He'll probably be hurt no matter what, but if you hope to keep in contact with him, do what you can to soften the blow so that you can stay civil.
2006-10-22 12:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sit him alone one and one and say, I'm sorry... this marriage, it's just not working. And, I've tried... and I all I really wanted is for our children and us to be happy. But, this marriage isn't making me happy and I am afraid that my unhappiness will negatively effect our children. Therefore, I'm filing for a divorce because I cannot be in this marriage any longer. You'll always be a good part of me but... this flame has died down long ago.
2006-10-22 12:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think no matter how nice you put it, asking for a divorce is a big deal especailly when kids are involved. If you have not tried counceling I suggest that you think about it before you make any kid of decission. Also you need to think about your kids and what effect it will take on them. Unless if they are older and married then, I am pretty sure they will understand, but little ones, you really need to pray about this one before any action is taken. I will be praying for you. May God guide you and help you.
2006-10-22 12:15:33 · answer #7 · answered by SuNsHiNe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no nice way to do this!
If you can stand him, it's worth trying to work things out, especially for the kids sake. My kids were permanently affected by divorce. Of course, if any abuse exists, then get out, otherwise seek help from a marriage counselor or pastor. Prayer is the best answer for me personally. Ask others for their prayers too.
Marriage counseling is advisable. Or if you go to church, ask the pastor to help the two of you.
2006-10-22 12:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by momsie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stuff to think about.
Why are you not happy?
How long have you not been happy?
How old are your kids and how will that impact them?
Did he do something to force you to this point?
Are you just being foolish?
Will you actually be happy? Or does the grass just look greener?
I am going through something similar in my life right now, so i have thought about this subject a lot. Just be fair and don't lie to him or yourself. You only have one life make the best of it. Good luck and be safe.
2006-10-22 12:51:42 · answer #9 · answered by rjl2382 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try saying this: I'm not happy and I want a divorce in a nice way.....
2006-10-22 12:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by arkedthecovenant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋