midlife crisis is this just an excuse for bad behaviour on the part of men?

Answer 1

Yes...so????

Answer 2

I think men do go through a midlife crisis but it is no excuse for cheating.

Answer 3

Sometimes men AND women will rationalize bad behavior with the excuse they are suffering mid-life crisis. However, there is a true emotional and psychological impact on both sexes when people enter their 40s.

For one thing, the 40th birthday comes so fast ! Men think they haven't reached the heights they had planned to reach when they were 18, feel dejected, and fear advancing age. Women fear they are losing their attractiveness and also fear advancing age. It is also the point in life when one realizes they ARE mortal, that their eventual death could be right around the corner.

This is a difficult time for many as they try to hold on to all that is leaving them before they are ready...youth, vitality, attractiveness, opportunity. They behave like 20 year olds thinking "If I just don't act so ADULT, I can hold on to it all for awhile longer".

I am 61, have been through it myself and with my husband and all our friends. There is hope. Finally, one reaches 50 and begins to accept themselves and their life and to be grateful for both.

In the 5th decade of one's life, stress is something you remember but don't often experience. The things that seemed so important at one time lose that importance. You see the time lines in your face, the grey in your hair, the loss of elasticity in your skin. You hate it, but you don't agonize over it. You start to accept the aging you.

My motto, as a young woman, was "I am the only ME I know how to be". Now, in my 6th decade I can say, "I am the best me I have ever been". I look forward to my 70's.

Answer 4

Is that a question or a statement?

Each man is different and has different reasons for doing what he does and the reasons are endless.

Maybe his wife cut him off from sex? Maybe she turned into a fat cow? Maybe he isn't happy with the life he has and needs meaning?

Perhaps a man experiencing a midlife crises may cross moral lines and that is not acceptable. That doesn't change the reality that it does happen. What ever happens though, I think the wife or girlfriend needs to look in the mirror and ask herself what she is doing or not doing that is making her man look around.

By the way, women have mid life crises too and they have affairs too. So the same advice goes to the husband or boyfriend.

Answer 5

Not at all.
A midlife crisis can happen not only to men but to women as well.
It's common because there's a point in life where you feel stuck, like this is it for your life and you have nowhere to go, nowhere to turn, and nothing exciting to do.
Many times it can be curable with some counseling and also some extra activities. But, I understand exactly why people have midlife crisis, which is because of their position on life. They feel they can't get a better job and nothing is out tehre for them.

Answer 6

No it was a legitimate phenomenon that has died off in the past 10 years.

Men (and women) used to get married young and raise families. Around about the time that the kids were heading out the door, men AND women looked at one another and asked that inevitable question:

Who the hell are you?

They had spent so much time raising kids, they had lost themselves. People (men AND women) have different expectations as to life and some decide that this is a time to cut loose.

It became a kind of right of passage.

Recently, though, since people are marrying later and having kids even later, a lot of men are fathers to young children while in that notorrious period. As they got to "sow their oats" for a while, they are less tempted and more in tune with themselves.

Answer 7

Midlife crisis in men and women are bull shi* I do not believe it that he/she had it in them to start with after 37 years of marriage I think I can speek in this subject.

Answer 8

No, many men feel that they need to accomplish more or do something different, that they need to have seen more, done more, sown more and gotten more out of the lot they have...my spouse went through this mid life crisis.
And he married me at 35...so, it wasn't like he was a young idiot.

Answer 9

we all experience times in our lives where things aren't going right, we argue with our spouse, we are boored, we don't like our jobs, we are depressed,but that's when we need to seek help, not leave your spouse for another and betray them and hurt them. i think it has much more to do with a person's character than mid life crisis. no one is the same person as when we married, we aren't as young, or as thin, but does that give you spouse the right to totally abandon you after years of you being faithful to them? just an excuse for not having to work on yourself, or be accountable for your actions.

Answer 10

The mid-life crisis is just an excuse. Don't buy into it.

Answer 11

No, men actually go through a really bad period in their forties. My husband went through it and there was nothing I could do or say to comfort him. You do the best you can do and pray your marriage survive in tact. It is a very terrible and confusing time in a man's life.