Why is it that people automatically assume your gay because you've chosen to undergo a sex change?

Answer 1

Because they consider your sexual orientation solely on what you look like (sex), and not on your gender (what you know you are inside) and it's orientation.

I feel offended when people call me gay because I am not a lesbian. (It's funny- lesbians make me a little uncomfortable, but gay men never bothered me). I may have a male body, but my gender is female and my orientation is straight. I have never understood what I was supposed to see in females sexually based on the fact that I have a male body. I only look like a male- any similarity between me and other males ends there.

I used to think I was gay, until I started to go to gay clubs, and then I found out that I didn't have anything in common with gay men other than the fact that I was bodily male and I desired males in a sexual way. Gay men do not want a sex change and I want one so desperately, I sometimes get depressed thinking I will never get there.

Some of my male friends also told me that they didn't get the sense that I was gay, just very feminine, and I thought like a woman. Some even told me that they thought I was a girl at first, with the way I interact with people.

So, I'm not gay- just a straight girl in a male body.

Answer 2

Because people are ignorant to the fact that gender and sexual orientation are two totally different things. Also, I say blame Jerry Springer. He puts the most outrageous, flamboyant ones on his show, and that's what the media produces, and that's what the public sees, and people equate flamboyancy with being gay. What surprises me, is how many people don't even know the OPPOSITE exists, meaning FEMALE to MALE transsexuals. They actually pass in public very well, and although many of them were lesbians, not all of them are, and a lot of them prior to their sex change were heterosexual women, and after their sex change become gay men. Their orientation never changed, just their gender. It's about societial impressions if you ask me.

Answer 3

Because people automatically assume that if you want to change your sex, you are actually a gay person trying to turn straight by changing sex. I think they are right ,

Answer 4

I think many people struggle to separate out gender-identity and sexual-identity.

As such whenever someone differs from the so-called norm they are then assumed to be lesbian/gay - the most well known group from the LGBTI communities. A real pity that can make life even more tricky for genderqueer people

Answer 5

from my point of view i find that all a bit confusing i can understand being born in the wrong body but id say you was a man and had the mind of a woman and you had a sex change then would that not make you gay even with the sex change if you was attracted to men? omg its all too confusing for me whats your opinion?

Answer 6

Why would someone want to have a sex change if they are already attracted to the opposite sex? If you are a man, and you are attracted to women, or if you are a woman and are attracted to men, there should be no problem, right? The reason people get sex changes is to conform to society's rules, isn't it?

Answer 7

Hi speaking for myself, it's because I don't know much about the subject and as humans we make assumptions about things, trying to make sense of it, we just all need educating.

Answer 8

Because humans are basically lazy and its easier to to make assumptions about something rather than educating yourself. In other words, they don't get it, and ignorance is bliss.

Answer 9

well guys make assumptions, if a transexual goes into a bar then they are looking for a bloke, it is never seen as a need to express ones self, same with transgenders i suppose

Answer 10

Who automatically assumes that? My transsexual friends have all been straight, and most were married. And that's true of the FTMs (female-to-male) as well as the MTFs (male-to-female).