She's only 7 months old and i think she's bored but also she looks sad sometimes 'cause i'll be wanting to sleep or just stay in the house a lot or i'll be on the computer or phone but it helps to keep my mind off of things a little which helps me not feel so depressed.But i want to play with my daughter a lot more than i do but it's hard to cater to her every second of the day when she can't do much yet and i feel so unhappy about life.What can i do about this?I love my baby and i want to enjoy my time with her more but if i don't have some time for myself i will go crazy!!!
2006-10-22 11:45:38 · 7 answers · asked by serenity 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
well first off you need to calm down. your baby is happy and you are fine. are you still with the person who helped make this baby? make him help you more. my hubby didn't do it with ours until here recently and our youngest son will be 2 in december. it became too much. i was literally just breaking down and crying at least once or twice a week. he finally got hte hint to help and now he does and gives me little crap about it. just ask for the help or if you are not with that person ask a friend or relative to help even if it is for a little while. go to the store up the road by yourself or for a walk or jog or something every little bit helps and if you need anything don't hesitate to ask for help. your friends and your family are here to help you so is your spouse no offense if there is one. that is all i can say just take it one day at a time and don't worry about it you will be fine. play with her when you can and if she screams and hollers that is ok. if you pick her up every time she cries or fusses you will have a spoiled brat who will always want to get her way. no offense intended there either. hope this helps...holly
p.s. it helps to better develop their lungs when they cry!
2006-10-22 11:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by Holly D 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like you would really benefit from some counselling. My mom has been depressed my whole life and it really affected my childhood, if you can even call it that, and it still affects me today and now I am going to start going to counselling. It would be best for you to get these feeling sorted out while she is still young that way the parts of her childhood that she will actually be able to remember will be happy.
2006-10-22 11:55:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I just started taking fish oil and some St. Johns Wart and I feel so much better. I didn't notice how depressed I was until I started taking these pills again. Talk to your doctor about taking them if you like. They might not recommend them, because they are herbs and not Zoloft.
2006-10-22 14:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by Rosey55 D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please please please see a therapist. You can start by talking to your doctor or your daughter's doctor about it or you can contact a postpartum depression support group. (I've listed websites of some PPD support groups at the bottom)
10% - 20% of women experience postpartum depression after the birth of a child. It is very common and it is very treatable with counseling and sometimes medication (many anti-depressant medications are safe to take while breastfeeding if that's a concern!). PPD can be very serious and like most depression it's very difficult and sometimes impossible to overcome it without professional help.
For your daughter's sake AND for your own, please talk to someone about this. Good luck. I personally know how difficult this is, but with therapy and medication I'm getting much much better and happier. :-)
Postpartum Depression Support Sites
http://www.postpartum.net/
http://www.babybluesconnection.org/
http://ppdhope.com/
http://www.sbpep.org/index.php
2006-10-22 11:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by Ariana S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try the therapist, but also remember that there are all sorts of medicines out there that you can go on temporarily to get thru the depression...can you get out and push her in a stroller once a day?
2006-10-22 11:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by Dianne C 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should talk to a theoropist about it or a close friend.....even though im sure thats not what you wanted to hear as a answer-good luck
2006-10-22 11:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
your gona have to get your life going NOW
stop sitting around and go to work and school or whatever you do.
staying home will not help the depression
stay busy
go punch the guy in the face who got you pregnant!
that will help!
2006-10-22 15:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋