this kid that i like is trying to get me back to being his friend. what happened was that i had asked him out. he said no, but what really got me is when found out he had told somebody to pretend to be his girlfriend, and he was also making fun of me and talking about me behind my back(this information by the way was given to me by my best friend who i trust very much, and she had heard it from his best friend). and now after all that, he is trying to say hi to me and talk to me, but i'm still mad at him for what he did!
i think i like him but i still don't know if i should
i think he's cute, but what he did is so mean!
what should i do??
plz help!
2006-10-22 11:41:45 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would forgive him but i wouldn't be his friends, You don't need friends like that, You deserve honest caring friends and i think this guy lacks both qualities
2006-10-22 11:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by kim a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, always take what you hear (even from friends) with a grain of salt. My Mom used to always say, "don't believe anything you hear and only half of what you see." My personal philosophy is that if I didn't hear them say it then it didn't happen. However, if it upsets you then the best way to deal with it is to simply confront him with it and then take it from there. A simple, "ya know, I've heard that you've been talking about me behind my back and since I hate to think such a thing, I just wanted to ask you myself; is it true?" and then just take it from there. Most of the time you'll probably know if they're not being completely honest.
As far as the forgiveness goes; I can certainly forgive others when I've been wronged but that doesn't necessarily mean you have to keep the person being forgiven as a constant in your life. You can forgive someone while still keeping your distance.
Remember too, you never want to retaliate by doing the same thing (or something worse) back to them. Doing so does nothing resolve what has happened and accomplishes to only make you look as foolish as they do. If you make sure that YOU do everything right and honestly, the other person(s) will usually end up making themselves look foolish and without any help (or effort) from you.
2006-10-22 12:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by Richard C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something that handed off over 25 years in the past very nearly ruined my life. each and every time i presumed about it, the hatred back. even notwithstanding the man to blame not in any respect requested for my forgiveness, i ultimately did. somebody else in touch did ask and by technique of that element I had enable flow of the animosity. There are some issues which ensue in life which could't in any respect be forgiven or forgotten. i'm satisfied I chosen to no longer enable it damage what years I somewhat have left.
2016-12-05 03:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by scacchetti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, what he did was not very nice but... it sounds like he is feeling bad about it now and he is feeling pretty stupid, go ahead and forgive him... but be careful too, dont trust him for right now as he does seem to play games, wait until he grows up a bit before you give him that true friend connection... right now, just consider it some one you know and you say hi to now and then but... dont ask him out, he could be setting you up to be a victom of his game again, he hurt you one time, all is forgiven but dont let him do it again!!!
2006-10-22 11:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are people who care about you unconditionally. What is there to like about someone who made fun of you and was talking about you behind your back. And how cute can he be if he has such ugly behavior. He hardly sounds friend worthy which means he is far from date worthy. I would not let him into your friend circle and I wouldn't give him the time of day.
2006-10-22 11:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by jaylynn_tx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt talk to him and i know thats easier said than done, but he seems phony to me because why all of a sudden he shows such interest, if he had so much negative stuff to say before. You havent been talking to him, so what have you done that was so good, it made him all of a sudden change his mind about you. We shouldnt hold grudges, so dont do that, kill him with kindness,you can be cordial and speak, but keep it moving. No romantic relationship, its already been damaged.
2006-10-22 11:53:24 · answer #6 · answered by robin p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wants to be cool in front of his friends, but at your expense? If he is such a nice guy then he wouldn't treat you like that and then expect you to forgive him. My advice, let this creep know that you deserve better and that if he wants to win your trust back that he will have to walk a mile to do so...good luck.
2006-10-22 11:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by shellybear0925 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seem to think you are stupid and enjoy trying to make an @ss out of you. Let that jerk play games by himself. If he start out like that he is not mature enough to be in a real relationship.
2006-10-22 11:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was mean! I would still try to forgive him. He did something wrong and hopefully he figured that out! Just be nice to him. Still say hi. I hoped that helped!
2006-10-22 11:45:19 · answer #9 · answered by hot stuff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want you he just wants to hurt you some more. He doesn't sound like you need to be with him. He is just going to be an as s to you. I would just find someone else---there are plenty of other people out there.
Good Luck
2006-10-22 11:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋