omg friendship help??

Question

omg i am losing my friend see
i was her bff until my brother asked he out
they dated all summer long
their relatioship was totally over the phone
then she heard every thing that happened at my house (cas she was on the phone with him 10 hours every day)
she recently broke up with him and that same day he was tooken to a juvinal home
now she doesnt want any thing to do with me becase of his screw up
and i geusse im not cool enough
how do i patch this friendship up?
is she even worth being my friend?


the reason i posted all of the before facts is because they are important to the questoin

oh my friend was one of the first real friends i have ever had im in 7th grade and she is my 6th good friend ever

Answer 1

Someone who is not your friend because they say you are "not cool enough" or because of the actions of another person is acting irrational.


Cool is an empty word that means different things to different people. Lack of coolness is a bad reason to avoid someone.

The actions of others are not your fault. If your brother causes your friend anxiety, or worries her, it has nothing to do with you. You are you, your brother is your brother.

It sounds like a fair-weather-friend, if you ask me. Fair-weather-friends are not true friends.

I can always tell a good friend when they are someone who sticks with you through thick and thin and defends you when you cannot defend yourself.

I hope this gets better! My opinion would be to be careful about that person in the future, since they may have shown their true colors in treating you like this.