This was the first time I've been invited to her house and we were playing poker -- my boyfriend got totally smashed, but he was not an abnoxious drunk -- he was just quiet and stupid and messed up a few of the poker hands (we were playing for $$). My boss's husband seemed pretty upset about that. H
My co-workers are pretty cool and it probably gave a bad impression but not a terrible one; but I'm concerned about the impression it gave my boss and a few other senior co-workers.
I just asked about what to do with my boss in this situation in the "career" section and everyone told me to leave him -- but honestly, I know bad guys and he is not one. We've been together over 2 years, he almost never drinks, and I've NEVER seen anything close to this lapse of judgement from him before -- It was a mistake, a really bad one that he's paying for (he feels like **** now) I want to be with him but still I'm having a hard time forgiving him -- any advice as to what will help me get over this
2006-10-22 11:27:57 · 12 answers · asked by intotrashmail 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are angry because he was less than wonderful ONE time?????? Lady, you are WRONG. With all the problems people have, the worst thing YOU have is that he over indulged one time. Leave the guy, or accept that he isn't perfect. Apparently, unless he is able to walk on water, you aren't satisfied.
2006-10-22 12:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe and hopefully this was just a one time thing although I don't really see it as a big deal. Sorry, I wasn't there but I really thought you were going to say he cheated or something. This type of thing happens to people. He got drunk and messed up. At least he wasn't obnoxious like you said and at least it didn't go too far as I've heard and seen other incidents a lot worse than this. Good luck! Hopefully your boss will understand unless she's a snob. As for you, Please forgive him and just be on the lookout in the future.
2006-10-22 11:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by LuvsKitty's 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to do is to get him to apologize to your boss for his behavior. Second the next time you get together with co-workers and alike there must be know drinking. Nothing worse then being with someone that you have to watch out for because you don't know what they'll do. Someone drunk will do things that they think is funny.....but they usually aren't. If he won't step up and apologize then he's not a real man.
2006-10-22 12:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he feels just as bad as you do about the whole situation. He's the one who has disgraced himself and not only that, but the woman he loves is pissed at him too. What would you do in his place? If you really want to forgive him, look in his eyes and ask him what he would do if you had made that mistake instead of him. Once you get to talking about it I'm sure things will work out.
2006-10-22 11:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by jipsi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
His behavior will reflect on you. The advice to leave him is correct. You don't want to look bad in the eyes of your boss. They will never forget that evening. If you don't want to leave him, don't invite him to events where he may embarass himself and you.
There is an old saying, "You are judged by the company you keep."
2006-10-22 11:35:06 · answer #5 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget the bad thing and remember the good things. What made you fall in love with him in the first place? Everyone screws up at some point in their lifetime.
2006-10-22 11:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by Kylaina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him jealous as f*k and then somehow in a crazy way and then make him beg to take you back. After that tell him to stop doing w/e hes doing and your good to go.
2006-10-22 11:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by u loser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, bummer! Forgiveness comes in it's own time, at least for me. I'd just give it time. It would also help if he appologized like mad for acting so dumb!
2006-10-22 11:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by Hessy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he has no respect for you ,himself or other people. He won't change, ever.Surely you deserve better. He's a yobbo.
2006-10-22 11:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by Cheryl K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him another chance to prove himself. I think we've all made asses of ourselves at one time or another.
2006-10-22 11:33:34 · answer #10 · answered by Lynda M ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋