He hugged her in my face,for what reason I don`t know.It really made me mad I FELT disrespected,because I DON`T like her and he did it anyway and the next day was our 19th anniversary(for the day we started dating)(married 8yrs) we did nothing that day and he said I let her mess that day up for us.I told him he messed it up for us,plus I didn`t talk to him for 3days.Was I wrong.................HELP
2006-10-22 11:24:47 · 23 answers · asked by MRS.K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know I'm going to get a lot of thumbs down for this but Yes, it was disrespectful. I know it's a tough situation for both of you but he should have considered your feelings. How would he feel if the tables were turned not that it matters too much. No, you were not wrong. He sounds like an ***. Sorry you had/have to deal with this. Does he still have feelings for her? If so, which? You don't want to be with someone who is still "in love" with someone else. What is wrong with him? ****** From what I see so far....Ignore most of the above people. I bet they wouldn't feel that way if it happened to them. No, you are not paranoid. You are right.
2006-10-22 11:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by LuvsKitty's 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep you were wrong. I hate to say it, but you are being absolutely ridiculous! Does he physically or verbally abuse or disrespect you or your marriage? In a day that most marriages barely last a year, you should feel blessed that you have been married so long, and with someone as long as you have been (19 yrs is a long time). Why let some other woman ruin a day so special? No she didn't ruin it, you did. He did nothing wrong. Did he grope her, fondle her? People have a right to like people and speak to people that you dont like. If they dont have any ill feelings, why should he not give her a hug if has known her for years. 9 times out of 10 she has her own life anyway and I doubt her day was ruined. If anything that should have made you feel better that she was hugging a man that she had, but married YOU and been with YOU all of these years. Men dont keep "attittdes" like women and he isn't going to react the way you would or even understand your perspective because I am sure he feels you are abolutely ridiculous and cant understand why you are tripping so much over something so trivial. He probably called you crazy...if not to your face...in his mind he has. You better apologize for being silly, and try to make up for ruining not your YOUR anniversary, but his too!!
Would you rather it be in your face, or him sneak and do it behind your back? Then you can worry and be upset!! You seem like you should be too old for me to have to be telling you this if you have 19 yhrs invested into a relationship!
2006-10-22 11:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that you are wrong. He has NO business hugging on another woman, unless it's a family member! Hugging another woman is bad enough, but his ex, that is so wrong. There would have been a major fight in our household. My husband and I both have a mutual agreement that neither of us needs to hug anyone of the opposite sex that is not a family member. You were right, not to sweep this under the rug, and pretend it didn't happen.
2006-10-22 13:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by Dawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are much more likely to be able to cheat and not get caught than to rob a bank and not get caught... unless of course he perfected the exploding blue ink panties... yeah you hurt his feelings, the right answer is "no I would never"... your only recourse now is to go back and say that seeing how bad it hurt you that I would even entertain the idea hypothetically makes me realize that I would never ever cheat... so basically do what you should have done in the first place and lie.
2016-05-21 23:12:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going way to far on this one if I must say. He hugged his ex right in front of you it was not like you caught him doing this behind your back. Did you ask him why he hugged her? You should talk to your spouse you are the one he was with for 19 years.
2006-10-22 13:11:46 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hugging is an expression of emotion. Its wanting to show someone you care by pulling them close to you and holding them in your arms. So no, in my opinion you weren't wrong.I wouldn't want my husband hugging on any woman that wasn't his family, but that's just me. But really its how it made you feel that should tell you whether it was wrong or not.
2006-10-22 11:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by Ash 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and express yourself. But the fact that he hugged her in front of you lets you know he isn't hidding any affections for her from you.
Next time, speak up right then and there. Say "hubby get your hands off of her, you have no business hugging any woman"
2006-10-22 11:31:20 · answer #7 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's always fine if the woman is doing the hugging but all hell breaks loose when the guy hugs someone.......sounds like your yet another insecure female with the typical attitude that it's all fine if your the one in control
2006-10-22 12:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU WERE WRONG-- i cant stand my hubbys ex either if it were up too me theywould never ever talk or see each other again but i dont throw a fit if she needs help and calls him. they are friends and were before i came along. he did it with you there and as long as there was no groppin or anything like that then get over it and grow up.
2006-10-22 15:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by birdie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he did hug her in front of you and i dont think the hug really meant any thing but if it were me in the same situation i know i would not have liked it one bit. but i think he should know how you felt about that and that you dont want him doing that again with or without you there.
2006-10-22 12:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋