Can someone by "the one" for you or is it all timing and circumstance?

Question

I was in love with a high school sweetheart 20 years ago. After a year of long distance college we broke up. When I tried going back to him a year later he was with someone else. We kept in touch sporadically and then lost touch. Now, 15 years since our last meeting I accidentally found we live in the same state. We are now both married with children with no intention of leaving our spouses and families...however I was suprised to find I have strong feelings for him still and I think he might be "the one." He says that I was his first true love of three major romances, his wife being the third. This hurt me to hear, all this time I thought he was the one, but he does not believe in the concept. He very much wants for us to be friends, introduce our families and keep in touch. Is there any such thing as the "one?" Or is it all timing and circumstance and I should be grateful that I have the opportunity to be friends with someone who once/still meant so much to me, as he feels?

Answer 1

I think that there is a possibility that there can be "The One." He may have been for you. It sounds like you have spent the majority of your life either with him, or wishing that you were. If he really is "The One," if you are meant to be, maybe one day it will happen. Right now, it doesn't seem that the timing is right, but if you really love him as you say, be content with his friendship for the time being, and maybe one day it will happen. My grandmother at eighty remarried a man that she had dated in high school, so you never know.

Answer 2

No, there are millions of people in the world, and theres not going to be only one person you REALLY think is the "one".