I'm freaking out. I can't think about anything but gettting pregnant. What should I do?

Question

I want a baby so badly and I can't stop thinking about things like clothes and furniture and so on.

I have a boyfriend who loves me, we ready!!

Answer 1

Have sex three times a week.

Having regular sex is the best way to get pregnant. Couples often try to time everything perfectly for ovulation but do not have sex when they think they are not ovulating. It is true that sex that is not within the time of ovulation will not result in pregnancy. However, because women do not always ovulate when they think they will, having sex three times a week will help to a woman cover her bases, so to speak, and not miss an opportunity to get pregnant.

2. Use an ovulation prediction kit or fertility monitor.

Using an ovulation kit to predict when you are ovulating will improve your chances of getting pregnant. For many women charting or other methods of ovulation prediction are too confusing. Ovulation prediction kits work by reading LH surges prior to ovulation. They are relatively easy to use and are generally accurate for predicting ovulation. Fertility monitors, such as the Clear Blue Easy monitor, are also a worthwhile investment if you would like to get pregnant faster. Fertility monitors are similar to ovulation prediction kits in that they read changes in LH but they also read changes in other hormones and don’t require any guesswork for couples. They are easy to use and will tell you when the best time to get pregnant is.

3. Have sex before ovulation (not after).

Sometimes couples get confused about the best time to have sex in relationship to ovulation. You have a small window of time each month to get pregnant. After a woman ovulates the egg will survive approximately 24 hours. Sperm, on the other hand, will live for up to three to five days. This is why having sex two to three days before ovulation will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Don’t wait until the day you ovulate to have sex. Your partner’s sperm will last longer than your egg and you don’t want to miss an opportunity by waiting.

4. Don’t rely on the Calendar method for predicting ovulation.

A lot of couples have heard to have sex around day fourteen of your cycle. This is based on the calendar method and assumes that you have a regular 28-day cycle and ovulate mid-cycle. Although this is better than just picking an arbitrary day to have sex, it is not a very accurate way to predict when you ovulate. Many women do not ovulate on day fourteen and knowing precisely when you ovulate will help you time intercourse better. Ovulation prediction kits, looking at previous months bbt charts, or watching for body cues will help you to determine when you ovulate.

5. Charting may not be the best way to predict ovulation.

Charting is great for tracking your cycle but it does have disadvantages. By the time you can see ovulation on a bbt chart, you have already ovulated. It is good to chart so you can track your cycles, see if you ovulate the same time each month, and also so you can look back on your cycle and see if you timed things right. But if this is your first cycle trying to get pregnant or if you are not ovulating at the same time each month, an ovulation prediction kit would be more helpful.

6. See a doctor before you start trying to get pregnant.
Make sure you are in good health and have had a regular check up from your OBGYN or medical provider. Untreated infections, sexually transmitted diseases, or poor health can affect your chances of getting pregnant. Its good to see a doctor as well as start taking prenatal vitamins prior to trying to conceive.

7. Don’t smoke, drink alcohol, or abuse drugs when trying to get pregnant.
This may seem like common sense but many women do try to get pregnant while smoking, drinking or using drugs. Smoking, drugs, and alcohol can affect your fertility. It will also affect your unborn child. It is important to stop smoking or using drugs and alcohol before getting pregnant and not wait until you find out you are pregnant.

8. Have enjoyable sex.

Sometimes when couples are trying to conceive, sex becomes a job or function of reproduction and is not as enjoyable. Plan a romantic evening or try something different to spice things up. How you are feeling sexually may factor into your chances of getting pregnant. Some researchers believe that having an orgasm during sex increases your chances of getting pregnant. For women, the spasmic movements of orgasm will help pull the sperm into the uterus and for men a better orgasm may increase the man’s sperm count.

9. Have sex in positions that keep sperm inside the vagina longer.

The missionary position is a good position to use when trying to get pregnant. Avoid positions where the woman is on top. Gravity will allow sperm to leak out with these positions. Also try placing a pillow under your hips to help tilt your pelvis and keep the sperm in longer. Don’t get up right after sex. Try to relax and allow the sperm to stay in the vagina as long as possible.

10. There is no such thing as trying too hard to get pregnant.
Most couples get pregnant within a year of trying. If you have not gotten pregnant within a year consult your doctor for advice.

Answer 2

hi...
In my opinion, babies come whenever the moment is right and the parents, at some level (sometimes subconciously) have agreed to the pregnancy. So yeah, you might be preparing, but I would like to share some other ideas.
I went to a phase like yours, but at the time I did not have a partner or the means to have the baby, so I found a proyect (big one) I could turn into reality in 9 months aprox. It "cooled off" some things and it gave me a bit of perspective on what 9 months actually are. (more than in when the baby is already here!) it also improved my economical situation. (clearing one big "no no" for pregnancy!)
then, the thoughts came back. I guess it is natural at some age. (I am 30, this starteda couple of years back) So then I started working on how to be a better mom and have a better pregnancy. I quited smoking, drinking and turn to healthy foods. (and I am talking of two years prior to the date in which I got pregnant) I worked with complementary therapies on my thoughts and beliefs about motherhood and on my related chackras. I came to realised I was trying to "hurry up" with motherhood to cover some "holes" in my life (not really big ones, luckily) All that gave me the idea and feeling of being actually working towards my goal, and eased the tension.
Are you needing someone or somthing to care for or to prepare to? I ask you kindly. I was my case-
I am pregnant now, and very happy for all the work I did before this. Is really a huge experience, and I am glad I have the physical and spiritual base for it.
hope it helps!

Answer 3

I'm going through the same thing, my advice is be happy don't be discouraged if it takes awhile remember there is only 12 chances to get pregnant in one year.
Stress and worry also doesn't affect you in a good way so always try and think happy thoughts .
Try and maybe buy a book on parenting and babies etc this way while you cant stop thinking about babies your educating yourself to be an awesome mum , good luck

Answer 4

I don't know your age, marital status or capability to responsibly care for a beautiful helpless little person. But, if you are able to, I have heard about people going on baby-moons now. They say that the chances of getting pregnant on one are as high as 1/4 which is really great! It's just like a honeymoon but revolved around relaxing and getting pregnant of course. Good luck!

Answer 5

Best way, is to pinpoint ovulation: The only way for you to know if you are ovulating is to take your basal body temp each morn, same time and before you get up. You should see a pattern in temps that leads up to and after ovulation. You can get the basal thermometer at Wal-Mart for about 8 dollars. I use a wonderful FREE website called Fertilityfriend.com...it graphs your temps for you, keeps track of your fertility signs, tells you when you ovulate and also tells you if there is an implantation dip in your temps. You can also use Ovulation prediction kits, but they only measure your LH surge and give you a ball park time for ovulation...they do not pin point it. Oh, and it is possible to be ovulating while you do not have your period, just like it is possible to have a period and not ovulate.

Answer 6

first thing you need to do is to relax. you need to learn about the things you can do influence an easy conception...like basal body temp.
but, If you don't get a handle on your emotions now, trying to conceive will consume your life and throw you head first into an extreme depression if it takes a long time to conceive.
If you learn everything you can about your body, your cycle, and what you can do to pinpoint ovulation and influence conception, it will give you a sense of control over your life and you will be doing everything you can do on your own to get the baby you so badly want in your arms.
goodluck!

Answer 7

hun you need to relax.... take a holiday, just you and your boyfriend and forget about it for a little bit, it'll happen... just make sure your doing all the right things before yoy get pregnant like taking folic acid, giving your boyfirend a boost of zinc and cutting out things such as coffee and smoking, eating healthy and start slowing working out. chart you BBT so you can predict your ovulation and know when your more fertile. and rather than running out to your boyfriend and letting him know your ovulating, just try to seduce him the way yoyu did before you decided to TTC. Also ensure he is wearing boxers or very loose underware and make sure his testies are cool. dont have oral before you have sex as salyva contains a bacteria that can kill sperm. One last thing.. this is not proven but it did work for me, after intercourse lay with your legs up against your bed head for about 10 - 20 minutes as this take away alot of the work for the sperm, to get to you egg... GOOD LUCK AND HAPPY TIMES TRYING

Answer 8

if you are thinking about it alot then you might be pregnant already that is what happend to me i could not go into a store without ending up in the baby clothes section and i went to me doctor and guess what i was six week along so you never know you might be thinking about it because you are already pregnant

Answer 9

get on prenatal vitamins drink alot of water so you can be healthy and get a ovulation test and keep trying, try harder 2weeks before or two weeks after your period. good luck.

Answer 10

well if you are at least 20 try to get a good job or go to college...
meet someone you love for who they are ... make sure they love you... and have sex and... be safe and get tests and stuff .... and start a family... get a house together ... and enjoy life...
god bless.... your welcome