She's dating a complete loser.
They've been going out for a little over a month, i think.
I know.
I might sound wierd.
But im sick of seeing her cry.
He'll leave somewhere and wont say bye.
He flirts with all her friends.
Including myself.
She thinks thats all there is.
Is him.
Friday nite, he had to leave the Varsity game early.
All he did, was wave to her.
When he had the chance to talk.
I tried telling her, that she's to good for him.
And she is.
I said..
"You can do better then that."
She said.. "There is nothing better."
She yells and gets madd at me, over things he does.
And it's making me mad.
2006-10-22 10:57:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First off , you can't win this one. It's between her and her heart. You can be there (as much as you can handle), for her cause you know it's going to end. It's apparent he's not as serious as him and it shouldn't take him long to cut her loose. You've already said your piece about him, so it's time to let it go, and not comment when she yacks about him, just nod. If you push it too much more you'll lose a friend, over a jerk of a guy.
2006-10-22 11:06:16 · answer #1 · answered by Skanky McSkankypants 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want to here it because deep in her heart she knows he is doing these things but she is afraid to lose him. She does not want to be without him. She's mad at you because you are telling the truth. It is now your time to take a step back because she will soon realize that she has been wrong the whole time. She will obviouslly apologize to you because of this.She is getting mad for nothing, but there is nothing you can do about unless you give her evidence and show her what he does when she is not around so she can see that he is a total loser and that she can do so much abetter than that.
2006-10-22 18:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by hearts101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oftentimes when someone settles for treatment like this it's because they don't believe they deserve any better, in the true sense of the word. That's probably what she meant by what she said to you. In your capacity as a friend, introduce her to guys you know who are nice, while at the same time stressing to her that she deserves better than what she is currently getting, and get some friends in on it too . Give it a shot.
2006-10-22 18:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some evidence to prove to her that she must leave him. She's stubborn and needs a lot of proof.
Plan something with the other girls who he flirts with ( if you happen to know them) and make up a scene or something before she ends up getting hurt again.
I've got a friend -girl- who's been through a similar situation. We had to act as detectives to open her eyes.
2006-10-23 17:30:26 · answer #4 · answered by Matt* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she is tired of being treated that way, she'll see the light. People have to see it for themselves or nothing the people that really do care about them say means anything. The only thing you can really do is tell her you're sorry if she complains. She knows how you feel already. Sometimes, you have to just distance yourself from people til they see the light.
2006-10-22 18:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by Sugarness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its simply because she's hung up on him. Point out the obvious. He flirts with others, he rarely shows affection, Is it worth it to cry all the time for someone youve only bene dating a month and barely know??
2006-10-22 17:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by John.Doe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right because it sounds like from reading this question. if she gets mad at you for saying something about her boyfriend. I have the same problem with my boyfriend just keep saying it to her and it will get through her head. my friends had to do that to before one i saw him with a other girl.
2006-10-22 18:04:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her face to face and tell her this guy is no good. Help her move along. Show her who is better. If she still doesn't get over this jerk then just let her be if she is happy.
2006-10-22 18:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave her for a while and she'll realize without a b/f she can deal but with no friends waz the point? without good friends like u a gurl can live without her loser b/f
2006-10-22 18:25:43 · answer #9 · answered by chica sexy LOL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe to her he is perfect despite his imperfects. Try to point out all the negative things, and make sure you are NOT ATTACKING HER. Say it to her gently and hopefully she'll figure it out
2006-10-22 17:59:16 · answer #10 · answered by Sophie S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋