It's better to masturbate then to cheat..Why do so many people say this?

Question

In relality, if you have to masturbate in order to stop yourself from cheating on your spouse, then your marriage has huge problems already.

If a persons marriage is based on their own sexual pleasures then they have a long road ahead. Things happen, people change , and if we are so caught up in ourselves, our own physical desires then we can't place real value in loving our spouse.

Sorry, some of you misunderstood the question.
I'm not saying it's better to maturbate then to cheat.......

I have read many answers from other saying it's better to masturbate then to cheat....This is where my question came from. I think if someone has to maturbate to keep them from cheating, then they already have a problem.

Answer 1

Well, maybe you don't know everything. I've been married almost 32 years, and for five or six years, my wife isn't into sex anymore. That's O.K. But I'm still healthy that way. It's unhealthy physically, and mentally to suppress those feeling. I've never cheated on her, and I never will. They did a long study and found out that men who have an ejaculation at least twice a week,decrease there chances of getting prostrate cancer by as much as 68%. Maybe that's why so many men have it today. All parts of our body's have a function. If you don't use it, you lose it. Then you begin to have problems. Most men masturbate to relieve tension. It happens the other way around too. Sometimes men loose it, and women need to be satisfied, through masturbation. It's totally normal.

Answer 2

You almost answer your own question.

But masturbation is not even in the same solar system as adultery.

People who say it, and you already know this, think all sex is the same. And of course they are sadly mistaken.

You bring up several other facets of the issue, but the crux of the statement is some mistaken belief that self-pleasure is the same as an affair. This goofy statement sounds like something a hurt spouse would say to a cheating partner, thinking they just need an orgasm to be okay. If that were really th truth, people would never cheat. So the statement is wrong and anyone with half a brain knows it.

Answer 3

Oi, I was going to leave this alone, but I'm afraid you'd dismiss other replies if they were mostly male responses, which they probably are. I think you've got this all wrong. And that's not an attack on you or anything so just hear me out. It's not that people 'masturbate instead of cheating'. Just because someone is masturbating, that doesn't mean they'd cheat instead of masturbating, it just means they want to 'take care of things' from time to time. Masturbation's perfectly healthy so long as it's not done an insane amount of times per day/week and it's not cutting into any of that person's priorities, including their sex life with their partner. If a person is masturbating in their spare time a healthy amount of times and is still just as attentive to their partner's needs as much as they ever were, I don't see what the problem is. We can debate on whether or not it's a need or a want, but either way it's normally not hurting anyone. Even when people are in a healthy sexual relationship with someone, it's not uncommon at all for them to every once and a while go about things solo. It's not a knock on their partner's libido, it's just a personal choice.

Answer 4

As much as we would like to deny it, sex does play a huge role in marriage and life itself. If you don't believe this, then try running an advertising firm with absolutely no sex related things at all. You'll be closed before you even start. Why was sex in the city such a hit? Because people could relate to it.

In order for a marriage to work, both parties have to be content with their relationship with each other. Whenever there is an inbalance, that is when problems happen. They don't want to hurt the other person, but there are NATURAL desire that they HAVE to have fullfilled and in some cases, have been waiting until marriage to have them.

No, a marriage is not based soley on sex, but few work out with an absence of sex or unfulfilled sex. The problem is that couples do not use everything in their power to work out sexual problems before splitting up or giving into cheating or in this case, masterbation. Couples do not go to couples or sex therapy which can usually help.

Answer 5

I agree if you have to masturbate to keep from cheating that is a serious problem in marriage. I can understand one masturbating iin some situations. Some people have a greater sexual drive than others. Sometimes marriages has issue, such as hormones. Many times the guys doesn't know what it takes to get the female ready/prepared. (Communication). Sometimes we may masturbate to relieve pressure.

Answer 6

Why can't the spouse help you get off? Are not we to be a help mate? What good is a help mate that help not? A help mate that help not(meaning spouse) is the long road ahead!

Answer 7

People masterbate whether if they are married or not. I would rather have my husband masterbate then have an affair on me. Just because a man masterbates does not mean he is wanting to cheat on his spouse. It is a normal thing.

Answer 8

I cheat even when i am in a happy relationship, I like cheating, it's fun. I masturbate either way.

Answer 9

Who says it's wrong to masterbate if you are married. You both have lives and your schedules don't aways work together... you are both trying to make a living. Just make sure that you make time for eachother. I don't think that's bad at all...nor would I be mad at my husband. At least you can ease your mind that he would like to be doing it with you....

Answer 10

if sex is the only thing keeping a marriage together than its not worth staying in the relation.