why would w woman after 26 years of a good marrige cheat?

Question

I was very happily married for 26 years and was faithful she left me and know lives with another man WHY

Answer 1

Mine did almost identically the same thing that happened to you, only mine was 25 years of marriage. Why did she do it?? Mine was bored, tired of being married, wanted excitement, and so one day, she just left to be with a younger man. Let me tell you from experience, it hurts , and it hurts for a long time....but there IS life, after even this. I don't know why yours left, but as much as possible, move on, and enjoy the rest of your life. Good luck !

Answer 2

Did you ever ask her if she was happy? Did you ever talk to her about things that were going on with her? Or did you get in such a rut after 26 years, you just assumed she would always be there for you. Wrong.

I am so sorry, I don't want to hurt your feelings, but honey, with divorces now days, people no longer think, work, or talk things through. They divorce. It's not a black mark against someone any longer. It's like breaking up in high school. One day you are with somebody, the next you are with someone else. I have been married 26 years, marriages can fall into a dull existence for both parties, we take each other for granted. Your wife wasn't happy, and instead of talking to you-she ran right out into another man's arms. It's not right, she should have told you that she needed some spice, some special time, given you the opportunity to be the man on her arm. And I am sorry for that.

I am going into what you should have done, because it's only going to hurt you and it may have not helped anyway. Your wife may have changed, people do change; especially after that many years..you might not even like the new "her". So, now you pick yourself up off the couch and away from the computer, put on some nice clothes, and go meet somebody to share some time with. There are women out there that are looking for good faithful men like yourself. I have a friend, she's 63, she's meeting her new boyfriend for dinner tonight. They are so cute together. There is life after divorce, even if it's been 26 years...so go find some...

God bless us all.........

Answer 3

Obviously because you were alone in the marriage, happy but she was not. Women dont leave marriages of that legnth of time if they are happy. There is something that she was missing and found in someone else. Somehow the commucation was lost because generally a woman will want to talk and work things out. Leaving a marriage is a LAST resort. I was married for 10 yrs, he was abusive, he always cheated, and didn't support me financially. But it took 10 yrs. After 20 yrs, you may as well just stay together, it is hard starting over. Obviously she was VERY unhappy to walk away from a marriage of that long. You should have tried talking to her before....or maybe listening. Maybe that is what you didn't do. Women will gravitate to a man that she feels listens, understands, nutures, and supports her mentally and emotionally. Leaving a marriage generally isn't about any physical (it is for men, but not for women) it is always for something more emotional....if you aren't divorced, there is still hope. Try being her friend and listening....she and the other man dont have what the two of you have. No one can just walk away from that much time and investment (of her life) unless you were a total jerk, abusive, or distant. Or you can just move on, like most men do, and love her enough to let her be happy if you know honestly in your heart that you can give her the happiness she needs and desires.

Answer 4

Thats a simple one. Read everything!

You are not telling everything. Was your marriage a battle everyday? or was she 18 and you were 60 when you got married? and now your 86? Did you become an alcholic? do you beat her? how may girl friends do you have? are you offensive in anyway? Dig she find another girls underware in your drawer?

I know, you don't do any of those things, and i'm just kidding. Your problem is: the kids are grown, and a girl just needs to date again and stuff, and you lost your romance.
If you REALLY love her, remember this, the "stud" she is with right now will mess up, thats why he is with your wife, meaning, some guys are great lovers for a couple of months, then they need a new girl, because they are only good lovers and not good husbands! They like sex, but not commitment, and they sure as hell are not family men, like you are, or maybe they are family men but not good ones, as they only break girls hearts.
If you really love her, she will be back, with a sob story, and if you can forgive her, things may be good again. Try asking her on a date! Remember, you turned her on at one time. When the kids are grown, mom needs to date again........tell her, i would do anything for just one more night with you! Just one more night! then when you get your chance, you better remember how it was way back when, and love her bigtime. Also, from now on, you are going to ask her on a date every week, and go or do something together, every week. Even a walk on the beach! Take her places!
Luv,
Le
PS. i know im only 21, but i studied this stuff from the best teacher in the world, and i understand it. Really! ALSO, if you go to bed with another girl, its all over between you and your wife.

Answer 5

Could be one of many reasons - but there is no excuse and she shouldnt have done it.

Maybe after all that time the romance was missing. Maybe she got bored. Maybe she went through a mid life crisis and that was her way of rejuvinating herself. Maybe there was something she was unhappy with. Maybe .....

If you really need to know to help you deal with it - ask her if you can.

But I really think that it would be good for you to talk to someone - counsellors are the best. Because there is a definate grieving process that you will go through. Eg Shock, denial, anger, hurt, sadness etc. It is a difficult time and it is a lot easier if you can talk to someone.

Just remember - it is not your fault. She obviously wasnt happy for whatever reason and found someone else but she should have stayed true to the marriage and found help to sort out her unhappiness instead of having an affair.

Take care of yourself and really pray that you heal quickly through this. Maybe life is taking you in a new direction and once you get through this difficult bit there will be new things in store for you.

Answer 6

I am sure there were signs of restlessness that you must have missed. After 26 years, it is easy to take things for granted. That's a big mistake. But, I am just speculating here. She could have been influenced by the sweet talk of the other guy, his manhood, tv series, friends, etc. It is usually a combination of things, not like a surprise coming out of the blue.

Answer 7

She wasn't talking to you about her feelings and what she felt was wrong with the marriage. She kept it to herself I guess and felt like she wanted more. I'm not saying it's right, cause it's not. I'm just guessing this is what happened with her. Some other guy came along and said all the right things and that was it. Just know, she WILL regret it in the end. The grass it NOT greener on the other side. Sorry for you.... If you need someone to talk to email me. I'm a good listener. [e-mail]

Answer 8

you state "i was very happyily married" but the bigger question was she?

Obviously she wasn't or she wouldn't be living with another man. :( I think it is horrible that she didn't tell you or try and work it out but woman usually try and give signs and use cheating as a last resort.

Please do yourself a favor and talk with someone but move on and find someone who will be "happy with you" there is someone out there.

Answer 9

hmm... YOU were happily married - apparently she wasn't... men tend to ignore symptoms of problems. I know that hurts a lot, be strong. Maybe it happened so you could find an even happier relationship.

Answer 10

Perhaps despite your happiness she was unhappy... maybe she tried to tell you, maybe she tried to explain and you were unwilling to listen...so she found love else where. I think it is sad, and I hope you can find happiness again...she should have tried everything thing before calling it quits...