My close friend had been dumped by her boyfriend recently,and she immediately came to me for comfort.As I was holding her as she cried she told me she feels alot more safe,warm,and loved while in my arms. She told me she feels more comfortable in my arms then when she was with her boyfriend just before the breakup.Was her comment appropereate or did she just say it because she was upset.She said this to me when she was in a happy mood!Now you see I why I'm confused!Please help!
2006-10-22 10:05:48 · 6 answers · asked by snugglebear20032004 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your friend is vulnerable right now. Her relationship ended with her boyfriend dumping her. She was feeling alone, hurt, confused and rejected. You were there for her. She knows she can count on you and that you would never hurt her, like her ex did. So she did feel safe, loved, protected by you and close to you. She said these things because she was upset and her comments were appropriate at the time. Her telling you this when she was in a happy mood means, she was telling you the truth when she wasn't upset. It also tells how much she appreciates your friendship. If you want more than a close friendship with this girl, take things slowly. She needs time to get over her ex and the hurt he caused her. Just continue to be her close friend for now.
2006-10-22 14:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by merry59 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from what you wrote, I have gathered that she compaired being with you felt better then her relationship RIGHT BEFORE her breakup. Being as there had to be problems, and hard times to break up, it makes sence to be more comfortable with you, her friend. Yet I am definatly picking up some feelings here, she came directly to you for comfort, that says that she trusts you and finds comfort in her time with you.
It's obvious that you have feelings for her too, but a word to the wise(and this is a teat of ur friendship) WAIT!!! Dont come on too strong, if you are the good friend she thinks, then you can wait to make ur move!!
Plus any relationship that's meant to be, will happen!!! And you guys definatly have something special here!!!!
Good LUck!!!
SMJ
2006-10-22 17:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by Sara mary jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone breaks up with their "other" it usually leaves them feeling alone and maybe not very attractive or desirable. We tend to migrate towards what is comfortable, safe and familiar. Don't take anything she says or does right now as anything more than being in need of a friend. If that is not the case, then do you really want to be involved with someone that can so easily jump from one person to another?
2006-10-22 17:22:30 · answer #3 · answered by femstar00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes yes, she's in love with you.
Unless she's the manipulative game-playing type who just wants attention -- and you should seriously ask yourself if she is -- feel free to plan some ridiculously romantic way to whisk her off her feet.
If the breakup was "serious" you should wait at least 3-4 weeks though, if you don't she'll still have confused feelings.
2006-10-22 17:15:56 · answer #4 · answered by intotrashmail 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
slow your roll and don't get it twisted. she just really needed someone to be around to comfort her and you were able to do that. now give her some time and don't pressure her about trying in a relationship with you. later on if she wants to go out with you then go for it.
2006-10-22 17:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by Quociana L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rebound... be very careful.... and take it slow.... if she is comfortable start with talking... see if you have anything in common
2006-10-22 17:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by De 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋