ok i am a tgirl on the inside i have just started going to councling and trying to convice the councler that i am a woman i now have been to her 6 times at 200$ a pop i cant keep this up not being me i know what i am and i know what it is gong to take to get me there now my wife dose not know what i am i think she is in denial i told her before we tied the not and she washes all the cloths i dont have may mens cloths and no mens shoes but she makes me feal that i cant be me just like the theripest . i cannot keep living like this i dont know what to do i think i am going crazy i see other girls and i am envious of them i need to be me what can i do i cry alot and am depressed now . the theripest toldme she thinks that i want to change . just to show people that i can and that i am not a girl i know i am and i have given this much thought and it never leaves my mind i know what i am why do i need to prove it to some one eals to get the ok to chang my sex.
2006-10-22 09:57:00 · 7 answers · asked by tgangeltg 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Why are you talking to a therapist? It sounds like you already know what you want. Do you feel like you need permission or external reinforcement to tell you that it's OK?
You are the expert of you. Nobody else knows what you are or what you need better than you. nobody else has to live with the consequences of your decisions except you (in most cases). even your wife is choosing to be with you.
If you feel like you can no longer live the way you are, then make a change. No one else knows what you need better than you. Allow yourself to be yourself. You don't need permission from the people in your life-especially those you are paying to be a part of your life
2006-10-22 10:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by the guru 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello my fellow tg friend! I am ts myself. Female to male though. I KNOW how frustrating going to a therapist can be. It's not right in my opinion, that someone else has the ability to kinda "play god" with someone's life and decide what's in your best interest. I also know (whereas someone who's NOT tg) is that many times states require you to follow the Harry Benjamin Standards of Care, and that REQUIRES you to go to counseling first and then get the OK letter from the therapist to begin hormone therapy. It's a long process full of red tape. I myself only went about 4 months of counseling (which I got for free from the gay and lesbian diversity center) and then my doc actually came to one of our transgender support group meetings to promote her services. So, I got lucky there, since she saw me at the meetings and she knew my counselor, I didn't have to continue with the therapy, she just signed off on my hormones. I KNOW it's difficult and I KNOW the pain you are going through. It's expensive and some therapists I believe are biased and keep stringing you along until you can't afford it and give up on your dreams. Trust me, DON'T do it. You KNOW this is who you are and you KNOW this is what you want, right? My advice? Seek out a therapist that deals specifically with gender identity issues, or a therapist that is glbt friendly. If you absolutely cannot get your hormones without the therapist's approval, that is the route I would go. Or, you may be able to go to a glbt friendly doctor (like a gay or lesbian doctor) and they will just start you on hormones WITHOUT therapy (although in some states they can't do this). Keep in mind though, that therapy is GOOD to have. Once you start going through the process and realize how cruel society can be to transsexuals, and the fact that employment, family, dating, ect may become VERY difficult, a good therapist is a valuable thing to have.
If you have a gay and lesbian yellow pages, (they are in bigger cities, I'm not sure if you're close to a large city or not) look in there for psychotherpists and physicians. It's probably your best place to start.
2006-10-22 17:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your money on a therapist. They will only make you feel crazy. Discuss it with your wife if she is not open to it, then take a little break to go find yourself. You are not alone. There are a lot of men with feelings similar to yours. You are not crazy.
2006-10-22 17:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by gc27858 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be who you are, not someone you are'nt. Do'nt spend your life fooling yourself and others, lifes to dam short for that.
2006-10-22 19:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First: Change your ******* therapist
Second : Change your ******* wife
2006-10-22 21:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FEEL FREE TO DROP ME A LINE. I'VE BEEN THERE.
2006-10-22 20:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by poodle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you give me your email address??
2006-10-22 17:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by jessyb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋