This question kind of falls in the " Can male or females be friends" category but I want an honest answer from male participants. Can we as men really look at a friend or maybe even any girl and not think of sex? Can we just be friends or are we always trying to impress to get a chance in bed with them? Personally and honestly I'm 25 and I think about sex frequently. When I see another woman I can't help but to think that I am trying to impress her in some sort of way to better my chances with her. Females, can answer too with your opinions but I want honest male answers.
2006-10-22 09:49:03 · 13 answers · asked by JBauer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Males are built to respond quickly to any sexually stimulating activity, take the initiative and make it happen. That's why men are more genitally focused and more easily aroused by visual and vocal stimuli than women, irrespective of the surroundings.
So it is perfectly normal for a man to have sexual thoughts when he sees a promising and healthy female of suitable age. Try to check whats known as Oedipus complex in psychology. Its a bit offending but an important concept. So its in later stages when emotions and other factors like respect come into play that man start to see the woman through other perspective. So calm down and just learn to control your emotions. And don't feel bad you can help thinking about that.
2006-10-22 10:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's nothing to be worried about. First, he's 21 years old which means he's in his sexual prime. Second, virtually all guys have looked at this stuff at one point in their life. Men are visual creatures and their brains are wired to enjoy looking at beautiful, naked women. It's part of their nature and you can't change that. Any guy that says he doesn't like looking at the stuff is either gay or lying. The lesson here is don't take this personally. Even if you were the most beautiful woman in the world and gave him all the sex he wanted, he would probably still like naked pictures. It really has nothing to do with you personally. The only thing you should worry about is if he is CONSTANTLY looking at this to the point where he ignores you completely then it would be a problem. But most girls get way too upset about something that is actually part of a guy's nature.
2016-05-21 23:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the age of 25? hmmmmm.
Short answer is that I always knew which ladies were my "just friends" and which one's I was MORE interested in than that, and I did not let the lines blur between the two.
Longer answer depends on how sexually active you already are. If you're already in the habit of keeping your pants on where the ladies are concerned, the short answr is a lot easier. If you're not in that habit, then I suggest that you start cultivating the habit immediately and monogamously as otherwise you aren't worth a damn to a good woman.
2006-10-22 09:59:04 · answer #3 · answered by HeartSpeaker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im a female and i only have 4 girls for friends but i have ALOT of guys that are friends and only about 1/4 of them have tried to have sex with me
2006-10-22 09:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think guys and girls can be very good friends. The thought of sex may run through his mind, but if he "respects the boundaries of their relationship" (to quote a friend of mine), then it will only be a passing thought, and he won't act on it.
2006-10-22 09:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as men , yes we may think about this with any lady , even with some friends especially if we did not do it for long time ( but in this case body language will talk only ) .
2006-10-22 09:57:58 · answer #6 · answered by MIKE IVANA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm female, and most of my f riends are male. so. i hope they can be friends, else half my friends are only friends with me 'cos they're trying to get into my pants!
seriously, i'm worried and parnoid now, this is the second question like this i've answered this evening..........
2006-10-22 10:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a female and yes i can speak with my friends without thinking about sex.with others maybe im thinking about sex but not too offten
2006-10-22 10:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its harder to be friends with hot chick than with a not so good looking chick.
2006-10-22 09:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by passing by 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
er yea they can it is known to happen but in ur case i see no hope for you because ur a dog!!
2006-10-22 09:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by mandy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋