Me and my female friend Jen are both 17 years old. Me and her have been best friends for our whloe lives. She was at my house last night. We were in my room watching tv and then I kissed her and then she started kissing me back. The next thing I know we end up on my bed and we are still kissing and then she said make love to me. To make a story short we ended up having sex. I talked to her today and she said it did not mean anything to her. I do you not believe her when she says it ment nothing. I think it did mean something to her but she was afraid to admite it to me. What do you think. Do you think it means anything?
2006-10-22 09:46:47 · 33 answers · asked by TOM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Of course it meant something to her. Unless she's a sl** and does it with everyone. She has probably liked you all along but could never admit it. I bet you that if you tell her that it meant something to you, that she would admit her true feelings. It always means something if you are a decent person.
2006-10-22 09:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by peajaetee 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Is it bad to have sex with her? So long as you agree and neither of you are carrying STDs and you're using a contraceptive, no, there is nothing wrong with it. What you two do in bed is entirely your business, so long as it's safe.
As for meaning something to her, it really depends what kind of person she is. Sex usually means more to women than it does to men, but at the same time there are even some women who do it entirely for recreational purposes and don't attach the subject of love to it. I suggest you just ask her about it, preferably in private, and make sure to be calm and understanding so she feels she can speak her mind freely.
2006-10-22 09:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bro, the best sex is with someone that close to you. Of course it's gonna be strange to do it with someone you've been friends with most of your life, but it's better with someone you know than with a total stranger. As far as her denying what she felt to you, you better get the truth from her asap. She may think that your friendship is over and crossed into something deeper. The real question is, do you think you can still be friends after that?
2006-10-22 09:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by lickthisup69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, now you two have messed up a great friendship.......If she says it meant nothing, she feels it was a "mistake." That usually doesn't resound well no matter who is on the receiving end.......I hope this turns out okay and you two remain friends, but look out.
As a rule, In a marriage, your spouse should become your best friend, but with regard to a best friend, simply having sex is ultimately the best way to ruin a friendship; HOWEVER, it is possible you two could become more than friends and conversely, it's possible your relationship is about to spiral downward......Good luck!
2006-10-22 09:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex will change your relationship for ever. You may never be able to go back to just being best friends, so think over it very carefully. If you think you have a chance of a relationship (bf & gf) then that is great and worth the risk. But to just have sex once or twice at the expense of loosing your best friend then it is not worth it.
In your case, she seems quite open about sex. It was a moment and if you can't live with it then that is your problem.
2006-10-22 09:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Depends if your willing to risk your friendship on having something more. You are probably right and it probably did mean something to her, but if she is not ready to talk about and you force her to it will back fire and could lose you a best friend. If you feel strongly about her as more than a friend then you should tell her, but don't force her to make a decision right away. Tell her you love haveing her as a freind, but you also would love haveing more with her, and then tell her you will respect whatever decision she makes, but that you wanted her to know how you felt.
2006-10-22 09:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by Aaron S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she says it doesn't, it probably doesn't. If both people are mature enought to handle it to where it won't mess up the friendship, then I see nothing necessarily 'bad' about having sex with a best friend. But friends should discuss what they expect from it beforehand, so there's no awkwardness afterwards.
2006-10-22 09:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by Penelope 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It always means something, hopefully you were smart and used some precautions. If not you might be looking at a little Tom in 9 months
2006-10-22 09:51:29 · answer #8 · answered by lobo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
awwwwww you got played, sweet!
btw, yer a 17yr old dude, i dont want to ever hear you say a girl made love to you again, its just creepy boy, creepy
lol @ the two optimistic females at the top of the list
YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
this girl is hilarious, you rail her, you think you're gonna be peeling her off you, and the next day shes like, -eh - i've had better
i havent been played that hard in weeks
TOM, did you give me a thumbs down? shame on you, i wasnt the one claiming that a girl made sweet love to me
2006-10-22 09:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by QnA 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe shes embaressed or just shocked that she did it with you since you are her bestfriend but you have to talk to her because if it didnt mean anything why did she tell you to do it in the first place ?
2006-10-22 09:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by Sw3ettyyyy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋