Basically, we (me and my friends) just want to put an exclamation point that what she did was selfish and evil and that she can't ever undo that. However, at some point we want to be her friend again. Its been 6 weeks. What is a reasonable time?
2006-10-22 09:35:54 · 12 answers · asked by Sandstorm222 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think she is better off without friends like you.
6 weeks now? How magnanimous of you all.
2006-10-22 09:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Circumstances force people into acts that they may not want to perform. Instead of judging your friend you should help her, she may be emotionally disturbed, it's not so easy to decide to do away with a life that is growing inside you.
I as a man and my wife even now can't get rid of the guilt pangs because my wife had to abort our third child (a boy) 14 years ago due to circumstances beyond our control, though we did have another child - again a boy, my youngest son 10 years ago.
Quite often we wake up in the night wondering what the child would have been like, if he were alive today. We needed emotional support at that time and were fortunate in that both our parents bided by our decision.
A true friend would help another in times of distress, not castigate him/her or nitpick on his/her actions.
Life's Lovely! Love & Live Life!
2006-10-23 03:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by Starreply 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey what if it was you! If everyone judged us by what we did Rather than by the person that our decisions has made us no one would be asking this question! Life is precious and abortion is a scary thing but what about a child that is kept by a person who just is not ready what kind of suffering might that child have then?There are thousands of children with out family's single parent homes and homeless children Yes I thank my lucky stars I am here to make this point but until you are in this persons shoes only the Lord Jesus himself can hold judgment!
2006-10-22 16:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by youngbuckoldsoul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once would have been plenty to get your point across. However if I was here...I wouldn't let you in my life.... you don't deserve her friendship. real friends would have been more supportive despite the disagreement on abortion...
You are so judgemental and I bet you claim to be a christian too...
"Judge not least Ye be Judged!" Heck, I'm an athiest and even I know that quote!
Do her a favor and find new friends!
2006-10-22 17:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by john s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never should have started, friends help each other out no matter what the situation. You have shown your true colors by insulting your friend just because she made a decision you did not agree with.
Think- what kind of life would she have had while she was pregnant? and when she had to take care of a newborn baby?
what kind of life could she have really provided, and what would have happened to her own hopes and dreams?
My advice is to stop talking to her, you do not deserve friendship.
2006-10-22 16:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sum_Guy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How long will it take her to forgive you? She may not have made a good choice but maybe if she felt like she had good loving friends, she would not have done it. I can understand her mistake easier than you and your friends. I know this will not get me a best answer but no one sits high enough to look down on others. If you believe in Jesus, how long would he have left her alone and friendless?
2006-10-22 16:44:30 · answer #6 · answered by Laura B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I respect your opinion about how she is a "murderer." But maybe there was more to the story than you know. Maybe it was a danger to her health? Maybe she just wasn't ready to be a mom yet. Doesn't she deserve a second chance?
A reasonable time? Why not right now? I'm sure she doesn't feel her best right now, and it doesn't help to call her mean things.
2006-10-22 16:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It wasn't your choice to abort the baby, and I bet if you were in that situation you would feel confused also. If by Jason it means a boy, then you'll never know how stressed it feels to be carrying a baby. Yes I do believe that a girl having an abortion is another form of murder, I still don't think that she should be alienated for a foolish desicion she made. She has to live with herself, she doesn't have to live with you taunting her also.
2006-10-22 16:39:19 · answer #8 · answered by dollerstorelover 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
you morons! sh got an abortion cause she didnt want to go through with the baby! it hurts to have a baby and im sure she didnt wan to go through that pain! she was dumb to not think befor she had sex! you need to say your srry and give her a gift like chocolates or mabey something that says your srry....
2006-10-22 17:54:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not for you and your friends to judge her on her choice. If you were her true friends, though you might not agree with her choices, you would not be calling her such cruel and hurtful things.
2006-10-22 16:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by soulful thinker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋