During the last 6 years, I have had to deal with Family Courts and Cafcass who have destroyed my life with the help of my ex-wife, when they allowed her to alienate my daughter away from me.
I lloked after my girl for 9 and half years before the marriage broke up and then I ran around for weeks taking my daughter to school and doing many things so I could stay with my daughter.
But the unusual happen, I managed to find someone else and my life was turned upside down and i have fought to try and get some contact with my daughter but failed.
This then led me to have a break down and I treated the lady in question quite badly and she kick me out of the house and now will not speak to me?
2006-10-22 09:35:06 · 9 answers · asked by The_Informer 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think she needs to understand what happened to you and how much it meant to you, keep trying to explain your feelings, and if she thought that much of you she would already understand and be willing to talk to you...
but... if you like her that much you should keep trying, give her time and space, and make kind jestures of flowers and chocolates, the odd text message, telling her that u miss her lots... these things can count when a women had been hurt....
good luck, and hope all goes well, take care.
2006-10-22 09:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by storm.minx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to let her know you realize that what ever you did was wrong and you sincerely apologize. Of course she is not gonna just slam the door opena dn come racing after you, with arms wide open. But atleast she will se that you truely do apologize.
Here is how you would go about doing so.
Since she won't talk to you Maybe send her a flower or two dozen to her Job. Ladies really think flowers sent to her place of employment is really special. Which it is. I think is it quite romantic. But anyway. Maybe even a box of her favorite candies. Chocolate isn't really the thing to get becasue not everyone likes chocolate. Make sure it is wrapped in something nice like a Beautiful piece of silk matierial tied with a ribbon bow. That should get her attention.
So not that you have her attention, Do something spontaneous for her, have rose petals on her door step, with a card reminding her that you love her, subtly that is. Remind her how beautiful you think she is. and how she is the light of your life.
If she is truely the woman for you she will take you back, Because she will know you are truely hers too.
As far as your stress you need to stop each day in a nice Park and take a look around you at all the worlds beauty and breathe. deeply in your nose and out your mouth. continuously, till breathing like that deeply is a unconsciencious act. By breathing like that it will help you to relax some and allow oxygen to engulf the cells of your body allowing you to take things in stride.
2006-10-22 09:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by orchid2800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say go with hope, but don't care about the consequence. Desire something, but disregard negative consequences. Like a runner in a race, hope for first but be happy that u are healthy no matter what. If you can't do that, then it depends on the situation. Any time that your hope contributes to the well being of a group, then hope. For example, a sport team member awaiting the biggest game of the season, or an Auschuwitz captive. Otherwise, only hope if it benefits you. If your studying for a test, don't hope to get a good grade. Assume you will get a good grade. You will waste less time worrying or thinking about scenarious and will have more time to study. And confidence improves memory!
2016-05-21 22:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life bites back, heard of a catch 22, yeah we all have. If you are truly sincere about this lady you need to make it right. You know her and what the problem was. What will it take to make it right? Are you 100% ready to do this? Will the same thing happen again? If you have the right answers here nobody needs to tell you, get your woman back. Good luck.
2006-10-22 09:47:17 · answer #4 · answered by Sage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude thats one fucked up situation.
But never give up trying to make the woman understand under what circumstances you behaved badly to her. And tell her this is the time u need her support the most. Bcoz i assure you she'll be back with you the moment she realizes how messy the situation is.
2006-10-22 09:45:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how badly you treated her and how much she loved or loves you time may heal the wounds ..try a roses with a short note saying how sorry you are then have them delivered..my bf one night on a drunken stupor and feeling depressed grab me and threw me on the bed cuss at me and yelled.. i threw him out but the next day when he was sober i went and got him i told him what he did, he did not remeber doing it and said he was sorry for all he did and it has not happen again maybe if you tell her in a letter since she want talk to you . you may convience her just how sorry you are
2006-10-22 09:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her what you have wrote on here, or try writing this woman a letter explaining everything and how you feel about her, why you was so bad to her and what you have done with yourself to change.
pour your heart out in a letter and see if that works.
2006-10-22 09:39:34 · answer #7 · answered by zeldieuk2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
surely she should support you through all this??? if i was in your shoes, i wouldnt be looking to apologise to her. id be more interested in my blood family (ie daughter)
2006-10-22 09:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs time, give her some space and eventually hopefully she will speak to you
2006-10-22 09:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋