Women Only Please?

Question

I'm 14, I'm also pregnant and scared! what do I do!!!

My parents died in a car wreck last year. i live in an orphanage.

Answer 1

I hope you have a adult woman you can talk to, and hopefully that is your mom. I think you are too young to be having a child and you are too young to properly care for it if you choose to carry it to term and keep it. Nothing personal there, it is just that you have a lot of personal development ahead of you and your body is still changing and growing. A pregnancy will be a HUGE strain on you, physically, emotionally and mentally. You do not have the tools necessary to raise a child..
You should also get tested for any sexually transmitted diseases. If you're lucky all you got is pregnant and not something else nastier, like hepatitis or AIDS.

I would recommend you consider an abortion, as much as I dislike the idea. Like I said, your uterus might think it is ready but the rest of you isn't. If your OB/Gyn can make sure you have great health care and will have a healthy child with no injury to yourself, then perhaps your parents will adopt it or you can give it to a good adoption agency with permission for the child to contact you in the future. If you give it up then it would be because you want it to have more than what you are capable of giving right now.
If you think you really want to keep the baby, then ask yourself how you plan to care for it when you aren't anywhere NEAR having a HS Diploma? What sort of job can you have when you aren't even legally eligable to work? How can you feed it and clothe it and put a roof over it's head? Is the father going to support you? How? Is mom and dad gonna do that for you? Is that fair to them? Are you going to get state aid to feed your child? And what about your friends? WIll they really stick by you or will they bail out because no one wants a baby along once the novelty wears off? Having a child means no more nights out and no more parties and no more sleep overs. Your world will be controlled by someone who's primary means of communication is crying. You will be totally repsonsible for another person for EIGHTEEN YEARS. That's four years longer than you have even been alive. That is another entire lifetime as you know it plus four more years. Think about that. It will be up to YOU to raise someone else, to keep that little person safe and secure and loved and make sure that person is a child that everyone likes and not like that temper-tantrum throwing kid in the restaurant or store that everyone looks at in disgust. You know what I am talking about. You've seen them. I bet you have even rolled your eyes at them.

Abortion is not murder in the first three months. After that, I don't know.

Giving up a child for adoption is not a failure on your part to be a good mom. The fact that you love your child enough to give it to someone who can give it what you cannot at this point in your life demonstrates a mothers profound love and courage.

Once that is delt with, I would suggest you get on some sort of birth control if you are going to continue to have sex, and make sure whoever you have sex with wears a condom.

I cannot imagine what you are feeling right now, other than terrified. I was 21 when I got pregnant and it was hard for me. I can only wish you wisdom and a loving family to support you, courage and compassion to guide you and that you be at peace with whatever you decide to do.

Answer 2

A baby is a very big responsibility. Sure, they're cute and fun and adorable, but they have 2 grow up, and they grow up fast.

U need to first know that all of ur responsibilities have taken a different perspective. Not only is it best for u 2 go to school and get a good education, u now need to have a job so that u can have money to raise ur child. You need to visit a doctor regularly so that u can have a healthy pregnancy, and u have to be prepared for the baby.

I don't recommend abortions, but I think that you may want to consider either this or adoption. You're very young, and unless your parents are willing to help you out as much as possible, then it's going to be extremely hard on you.

I take that back...I don't recommend an abortion because anything could go wrong. If you want 2 keep your child, u need 2 step up to the plate and handle your responsibilities. If you don't think that u can handle it, try to put it up for adoption. It will be very hard on u emotionally, but at least the child will be taken good care of until later on in life when u feel READY to enter back into his/her life.

Pray, sweety...like u've never prayed b4. God is here for u, no matter what. There's a reason for everything, and He won't put any more on u than what he KNOWS u can bare. U can make it...dont' worry.

Answer 3

Well, calm down one. and two youre going to have to make some BIG decisions, decision you should have to make at your age. But its your own fault because you decided to have sex so young. You're a baby having a baby! You really need to talk to your parents. heh, and let you dad handle the father.
You can either a) abort it, and that in itself is a huge emotional toll to take on a girl your age or b) keep it and give it up for adoption or c) keep it and raise it, which considering how young you are, is going to be twice as hard. I can understand 16, 17 year olds getting pregnant, which i think is sad, hard yet doable. But you are so young, you havent gotten the maturity level yet to even imagine how hard this is going to be.
and also, pregnancy on a kid as young as you, and the fact that you've just HIT puberty in the first place and your insides are just starting to do what they are supposed to do, it poses a ton of health risks to you as well
tell your parents, because they are all you have now,and get to the dr's asap

Answer 4

Just do alot of studying about babies! I was 16 and pregnant with my oldest daughter. Do not let people push you into getting married if you are not ready to. I married my babies daddy, and we are still married now, but I want a separation. We just grew into 2 totally different people. We have different goals in life. So if you still want to be with him, fine but do not marry until your ready. Your baby comes first! Just remember that. You will miss out on stuff when your young, but think of it this way. When your baby is old enough to stay alone, you will be young enough to still be able to go out and have fun, but you will be alot more wiser from raising a child, and chances are you will be alot more financially secure! You will not be young and impulsive. I am now 25 and my daughter is 8. It can get tough. I lost all my friends because they could just go out and do what they wanted and I had a child to care for. But I got a whole new set of friends, better ones! It will be OK! Just remember there is no age to be a good mother. Being a good mother comes from within! You can be as good of a mother as you let yourself be! Good luck hon! If you need to talk you may contact me!!!

Whoever that was that said that you are a slut for getting pregnant at 14 is an idiot. You are not and PLEASE dont kill this baby! I just think about all the idiots that told me to abort my baby. Now she is 8. I would have missed 8+ years of all they joy and love and good, fun times with my daughter! All the holidays, birthdays, all the times that she just looks up at me and says I LOVE YOU MOMMY! Please don't kill your baby~!!!!

Answer 5

im 15 and pregnant and i was scared until i told my mom but talk to your parents they will help you trust me and if are sure that you are start taking prenatal care keep going to the doctor and dont be scared hope you the best dont do a abortion cause u will regret it dont listen to other people comments if they tell u to make an abortion well good luck and take care

Answer 6

in my OpiniOn u shOuld really talk 2 yOure parents (mOm might be better) and ask 4 help alsO u shOuld tell the man whO gOt u pregnent in the 1st place!

i hOpe everything gOes well 4 u

luv, sOmeOne whO can help

Answer 7

Tell your parents and your partner first of all. Then go to a pregnancy center, then have your parents make you a Dr's appt. Don't go around telling all of your friends, by that time it will be all around school and you don't need any more distractions. Just see a Dr. first. You and your baby's health is more important.

Answer 8

talk to your parents and get inot a doctor, then you need to make the desicion for yourself about what you are going to do. Keep the baby, raise it and be responsible, give it up for adoption, or get an abortion which is your right to do whether people say its wrong or not.

Answer 9

you are way to young for one
tell your mom
give up your life now meaning no more partying
guys drugs alcohol
all of that
an be there for that baby

Answer 10

you cant get an abortion its illegal unless the abortion is to save a womans life

tell your parents and they should bring you to a doctor and he or she will take a blood test to confirm the pregnancy

your gonna miss a lot of school