My soon to be exhusband cheated on me. Why do guys cheat?

Answer 1

Everyone cheats for different reasons all of the reasons have to do with the person who is cheating. You are not the reason he cheated. You could not have done anything different. He has issues, he is emotionally incomplete and looking to fill a void in all the wrong places. He'll continue the pattern until he focuses on what his problem is. By the way women cheat for the same reasons.

Answer 2

There are many reasons men cheat. There simply is not one answer as to why men cheat; neither is there a simple solution. If a man is going to cheat just “because he can”, there is not much a woman can do stop him.

experts estimate that nearly 75 percent of married men, or men involved in serious relationships, cheat. That means three men out of every four practice infidelity, if the numbers are to be believed. And maybe even more disturbing is the simultaneous collapse of the seven-year itch, the once-disreputable length of time it was thought to normally take a man to give into sexual temptation. Today, studies show that most men who cheat are doing it within the first three years of a relationship.

For some men, cheating feeds the ego. For others, it feeds their illusions that a man's role is to conquer as many women as possible, and a woman's sole purpose in life is to please men. And still others creep because of its intoxicating effects, providing an adrenaline rush. But whether a man considers cheating mental therapy, role playing or more thrilling than bungy-jumping, "nothing justifies it, nothing makes cheating okay,

Answer 3

I really don't understand why either sexes cheat on one another. I am in the military and I have seen both sides cheat. I have been married for 5 years and I have known my wife for 15 years. I would never do anything to hurt her or to destroy what we have worked so hard to build together. A lot of men are very inconsiderate and do not have an affectionate side to them. They want to be "Mr. Macho". I say that you and any other person in this world that gets cheated on deserves better than that. Yeah we all make mistakes in our lives, but that is pushing it way too far. I wish you the best of luck and hang in there it will get better. I am sorry for what he has done to you. SMILE!

Answer 4

the morals of mankind are getting worse everyday. there are no simple reasons people cheat except that they are lustful and self centered. But so many times there are people that get married on a whirl wind romance and it is often heard said at the wedding " oh well if it doesn't work out you can always get a divorce." It simply has become too acceptable in our society to cheat it feeds itself with each new case. Faith and God can provide comfort and perhaps help you to get past this. but it takes a long time usually. except for cases of just pure lust men and women can feel they have missed out on something and look elsewhere, but in those cases it is usually something inside of them not the one that was cheated on...try to not be overly hard on yourself, consider what you feel and take sometime before acting...love sometimes can over-come.

Answer 5

Because we can.....

Some do it because we're stupid and greedy....others do it because we were given an excuse to do so.

They may not be valid excuses....but if a guy is unhappy in a relationship, he will step out.

You need to find out why your husband cheated before you leave.

Really listen to his reasoning. It may be b.s., it could be because he need something else that was lacking in your relationship.

It will definetly help you out in your next relationship though.

If he said something like, "We dont spend enough time together", "She stroked my ego the way you dont", "She actually paid attention....."

Those will help you find out if it was actually something you did or didnt do in the relationship.

BUT, if he says something like, "Well she was there......." or "It was an accident...." you'll realize he's dumb and you'll feel better in the fact that you gave him everything that you could, and you were the perfect wife.

Sorry to hear about your situation, but things will work out for the better. Think positive thoughts, stay true to yourself, and dont let this ruin any chances w/ the next guy, because the next guy you meet could be heaven sent, but if your holding onto bad baggage, then it can be doomed.

gudluk!!!!

Answer 6

Diaz276 is pretty much right on with this one.
My own experience is the fact that they can get away with it that makes them do it.
It shows also they have no concern for the woman they are cheating on. they are pretty much self centered indivivuals. i mean most men. They are not going to consider anything past the pleasure of the moment and the macho image it will give them when they brag to their friends.
And yes they will brag to their friends and anyother man who will give them a thumbs up as to their being better than they really are.
It is all smoke and mirrors for men, honey, and you are a trophy for them to show off and hold up as to the way you are completely true blue to them while they are scum and get away with it.
They hate to be the butt of gossip if it is not showing them to be the wonder super guy in their click. sad , but that is men in a nutshell
women can be just as selfish and oneupmanship as men can be and there are some of them who try to actually lure their best friends husbands into their beds to have a feeling of I am better than you. sick minds. are just sick acting people.

Answer 7

Both Men and women are capable of cheating...Now when you find the person who takes your breath away then you will not want to cheat. That is the thing we need to really analyze who we say we love and make sure it is love and not sexual lust. Most times it is lust and only that even if you have been together for years. Lust is always there but when you have real love it will out weight lust.

Answer 8

Good for you girl!-- I'm in the exact same situation!-- About 60 more days to go, and he can never do anything like that to me again!-- My problem is that I'm stupid and I went back to him and tried to work things out... for almost a year. I don't think he did it again, but I couldn't get over and I couldn't trust him. It's not fair that I have to live like that with someone for the rest of my life!
You'll get through it! We just have to be strong!
As for WHY they cheat, I really couldn't tell you. I'm just not capable of hurting people like that. He always told me that if he wanted to be with someone else, then he'd leave me before he did it... Well, apparently he didn't because I caught him on top of a fat girl that he works with at 4am... Ah, well.... It's over and done with!
Good luck! Be strong! It's for the best! You don't need someone like that in your life.

Answer 9

Because all of us men and women are genetically programmed to mate as much as possible (it helped the race back when we were cavemen). Okay, us guys don't give birth so we get away with more, but as it's said "it takes two to tango".
Now that dosen't mean we have to follow those impulses; we all know fooling around with someone else's mate is wrong. But you asked for the reason.

Answer 10

:) It's not only guys who cheat. But my thoughts are they either think they have to look elsewhere because the sex is not good, they just don't know the meaning of marriage and many other reasons. Women cheat either because she is not emotionally satisfyed etc. It all comes down to not respecting their marriage. *LOL* I know I'll get a few thumbs down because of this but so what.