my stepfather used to rent porn on video and then one day he got sloppy and my mom found it. i thought he was over his porn habit until today when autocomplete for websites popped up a bunch of porn sites. i've always felt that porn addicts are men who don't respect their partners enough and i feel sad for my mom, cuz if my husband or bf did this, i'd be a little upset. what do i do? i'm not 12, by the way.
2006-10-22 09:11:37 · 9 answers · asked by deer 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You know many people neglect it but **** can be as addictive as drugs. It can really be difficult to get out of **** addiction and frankly you can never get out the habit for sure. I think you are right that if a guy really loves his wife then why would he need to look at other women. I have noticed that a lot of women are not that bothered about their husbands watching **** but I appreciate that you care about it.
I think you should let your mom know about what's going on and let her deal with your step-father. If it was your own father then you caould have been in a position to demand an explanation from him but since he is your step-father, I think you should leave that to your mother.
2006-10-25 04:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by Friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there,
I think there is a difference between watching porn and being addicted to it.
Does it interfere in your stepfathers life in any way. Besides the fact that your mom doesn't like it. I mean is he hurting anyone by watching it?
Its basically normal for anyone to want to watch porn. It just depends on whether or not its worth the cost in your stepfathers case.
To me, it can open up a very healthy conversation about sex. I don't think its a respect thing. Its more of a visual stimulation.
But, if it is an addiction he will probably need to get help from an addiction specialist.
2006-10-22 13:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by Psychogirlfrog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone(guess)that I thought I knew is addicted to watching this type of movie. It went with some other activities. Right! No respect for wife or children or themselves. Or, I just don't get the choice of that over the choice of family. If chidren younger than you are exposed in the same way as yourself, then, this has to stop. Get someone to back you up. (I mean, you shouldn't try to confront him alone.) The guy has to get that off the computer. Does he care for your mom or the kids? Do you care for him?
Two yeses means that there is a solution. God speed.
2006-10-22 09:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an addiction.
This in no way should excuse anyone. But, understanding this should help women to realize it's not them, they did nothing to cause this, and that their husbands like them (and their looks) less.
I can promise you, if an addicted man were married to the perfect women, the most beautiful woman on earth, he'd still look at porn.
It is sad, truly. But, the important thing for women to realize is that it has nothing to do with them. It's ALL the man.
2006-10-22 09:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-22 18:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to get upset about my husband owning nudie magazines, and once i did find porn on our computer. I don't care anymore, because it's not worth getting upset over. Besides, who's he with? Me.
2006-10-22 09:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by alison g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worrie abpout it .. guys will watch porn all the time its justa guy thing .. even if they been married for 5 - 10 years they will still watch itm
2006-10-22 09:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by xcamayyx 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys like looking at naked girls. End of story. Theres notihng wrong with it - stop acting like their is.
2006-10-22 09:13:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just let your mom handle it, she'll know what to do
2006-10-22 09:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by Stevie F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋