Seems like a common problem. We males have plenty of testosterone and the ladies can handle that until we say i do, and then they dont anymore, or they still do, but with no passion.
2006-10-22 09:06:22 · 8 answers · asked by scott in minnesota 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow, a frenzy! I treat her very very well. I do most of the cooking, help clean. I always say, what ever makes you happy makes me happy. I compliment her. Tell her to do things for herself. I really go out of my way to keep things fun. That is where we differ! We both have our own ideas of spark. Mine is to be creative and try new things, places etc. Her is very old fashioned routine. I dont like routine because I can predict that and then there is no spontanaity.
2006-10-22 09:19:06 · update #1
It is strange alright. But it seems that,
1. The wedding takes a lot out of you.
2. Most people think that just by getting married the OTHER persons attitude will be different towards them.
3. Most women will want kids almost imediatly.
4. Men think that they will now have sex anytime they choose.
5. Young women now try and take control and expect their men to now be "more mature."
Because they are women. Not little girls anymore.
6. Now guys think that they can have all of the goodys they have ever wanted. Hey! Why not, now there are two incomes.
7. Now women think that they should have all of the goodys they need for the new home. All new of course. The hot car is just too much money. But look at this nice bedroom set!
8. Guys think that they should still be allowed to hang with their pals.
9. Girls think that they should be the center of the guys universe.
And all of this and a ton more lead to reduced expectaions and a lot of hard feelings on both parts.
Girl; "All he wants to do is have sex all of time."
Guy; "She is strangeling me, suffocating me."
Girl; "He wants to be with his friends more than me."
Guy; She is always on the phone talking to her friends or her mom.;
It goes on and on. What you need to do is talk to each other about how you feel. What it means to be you. And most of all, you must respect each other. If you must do things outside the house for instance, make damn sure that discuss it with your spouse first. And tell ytour friends that you do it out of respect for the spouse. And if your friends give you a bad time about it, they are not your friends. Dump them.
COMPRIMISE! (I hope I spelled it right.) Remember this word and live by it.
Good luck, you are going to need it!
2006-10-22 09:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true that there's a lot of excitement before the wedding but let's not blame it ALL on the women when it later cools off. After the wedding, everyone's tired, the stress of having a perfect wedding has got to everyone, the honeymoon was great, but then it's down to reality with jobs, bills, cooking, cleaning, and alarm clocks going off. From a woman's point of view, after the honeymoon, the man often stops doing the little romantic things that won her in the first place. The dating is over but the responsibilities have started. The woman may not always have her make-up perfect or her hair looking great. The man may start making disgusting bodily noises that before the wedding were off limits. Now comes the time when both partners have to make a special effort to keep the fire from cooling off.
2006-10-22 16:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happens after the marriage is up to you, if you tend to take each other for granted or you treat each other differently differently, sure the spark is going to get weaker. Never go to bed mad at each other, treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated.
2006-10-22 16:10:42 · answer #3 · answered by lobo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most cases.... It's because men expect women to just turn it on when they are in the mood... but women aren't wired that way... they want to be romanced like before. They want to feel appreciated... they want to feel desired. This is where you think and realize that you stopped doing what you did before you were married.
So if you want a light switch... go get a prostitute.
If you want a wife... realize she is like a dimmer switch and needs to be turned on all day long.... not just at bed time.
2006-10-22 16:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is work, and most people just take each other fro granted. a little romance and forplay never hurts either.
2006-10-22 16:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by moluvsmark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to keep on fishing for the big one if you've already caught it.
2006-10-22 16:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
life begins.....and responsibility is here......take it slow and get her warmed up.....rub her feet ......notice how clean the kitchen is.....your romance trials are beginning......be intuitive and creative.......
2006-10-22 16:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by zee zee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a crock......
2006-10-22 16:08:47 · answer #8 · answered by jrsgurl62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋