is it cool for my wife to hassle me about who i talk to and where i am going after i told her we r seperating?

Question

she keeps bothering me about who i talked to eventhough we are seperating in march of next year.( can't afford to leave now) she loves me still and i love her as a friend but not as a husband should love a wife. and i have been unfaithful in the past and she knows this. there is no hostility in this house but she cries a lot

Answer 1

Could you be any more insensitive? You are still married and still living together. just because you have made the emotional break in your marriage doesn't mean she has. Stop being such a clod.

Answer 2

If you have been unfaithful in the past and have hurt her you should expect this beahviour from her.

She obviously loves you, but that love is unreturned so she is going to be hurt and she is going to be in pain.

If you do love her as a friend then do not do anything to hurt her more. Even if you plan on leaving, do not start dating or calling other women,. Do not cause her more pain than you already have.

She is in pain and you need to respect that. Comfort her, hold her, dry her tears. Let her know she is worthy of love and being loved. Let her know your feelings are not based on her actions or inaction. help to rebuild the ego that you shattered, help her to be strong and be confident.

If you truly love her as a friend, treat her as such.

Answer 3

if you guys weren't in the same house and didn't have to spend the winter together i would say, no
no, it's not cool.
BUT you ARE split up, so i would suppose decent courtesy (on both parts) and good behavior would be in order for the next couple of months.
yeah, it's gonna suck a lot but you won't have to answer to anyone after march, so be a little patient. it might make life easier on you both.

Answer 4

hey dummy you aren't seperated yet. as long as you live together you are not free to keep hurting her show her some respect. She still loves you stop hurting her because your love died. move in with a friend. move out to your car whatever it takes stop hurting her because your happy. BUT REMEMBER WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND.Someone is going to hurt you too then remember what you did to your wife. The grass ain't always greener on the other side.

Answer 5

Its not cool - especially after you have told her about the separation and your infidelity and how u feel. She needs comfort tho she is obviously very upset try to be a friend to her but be firm about the way you feel and whatever u do don't lead her on, will only make matters work. Good luck!

Answer 6

you need to move now before we hear about y'all on the news. that is not healthy to still be living together after you are separated. you are still living as man and wife. go live with a friend or some relatives. that is not healthy and you need to cut her some slack. she is handling this like most women would if they had to continue to live with someone who has fallen out of love . put yourself in her position. don't be insensitive

Answer 7

You ARE married. You DO live with your wife. So, She has every right to hassle you about what you do, and who you see. You say you love her as a friend. If you treat friends the way you treat your wife, I'm glad you aren't my friend.

Answer 8

You are worse than a killer. You are a woman's worst nightmare. Moving out March 2007 next year. You are a damn loser!

Answer 9

it aint cool, but she might just care for you still. if you have been unfaithful or heart her in any way maybe you can see someone and the marrraige will last.

Answer 10

if you are seperated then she should not give a rats a** but if you are not seperated yet and are in the process well then she still has a right afterall she still does love you....