I guess what I'm asking is how do I interact with this neighbor and maintain friendly, neighborly relations?
I can provide more info if it's needed. There's just not enough room here to list everything.
2006-10-22 09:00:08 · 9 answers · asked by mathwizard 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Just keep a neutral interaction going on... Try to avoid flaming up things when he is angry. Wait till he has cooled off if you have to speak with him. It is always good to keep the communication flowing between neighbors, no matter how annoying they may be. You never know when you might need a favor from them...
2006-10-22 09:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't live in an apartment #2040 do you, because I asked, and after 11:00 pm, I have the right to call the cops if you are breaking the apartment complex's policies regarding loud music.
LOL
Without more info, we can't give great answers, but I would say you should try to confront them. When you do that, though, try not to go on the offensive, or become defensive. Address the problem head-on.
For some reason, passive-aggressiveness can rebound and get out of control (your neighbor has a problem with something you do, and responds passive-aggressively, so you feel like you have to "show them" and do something equally passive-aggressively in return).
2006-10-22 09:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never heard of that one 'passive aggressive' I assume its someone you believe is really aggressive but holding it back??
Is this an 'American' thing or can any one join in?
Where did the term come from? How did you reach this conclusion?
I suppose the Indian guy Ghandi could be classed as 'passive' how do we know if if was passive aggressive or just passive?
Sorry if I appear to be 'flippant ' over your question but it really does amuse me to discover these new terms!
Now let us assume you have a neighbour who you suspect is really aggressive but appears to be passive?
Or indeed vise versa! What to do about it is the question.
How do you interact and remain friendly?
You seem to have this feller weighed up already?
Are you sure about that? I have no idea where you draw these conclusions from, how anyone could come up with the term 'passive aggression' is beyond me!!
I was going to suggest getting to know him better, and possibly a re evaluation of him!!
But I've come to the conclusion that I dont have enough detail!!
2006-10-22 09:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by budding author 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a neighbor once that SWORE that a shirt that I had was his and that I stole it from the community laundry room (I bought it at the 2nd hand store that I worked at) and he threatened to beat me up. So I called the cops and (ammusingly) the cop was a woman who went to his place and told him that if he threw away all the empty pizza boxes, beer bottles and other assorted trash that he might be able to find his clothes and that if they heard that he threatened me again that his butt would get hauled off to jail.
Aside from that, just smile and wave at the person, and try to avoid socializing with him altogether. Why put yourself through that stress? Life's too short to try to figure out how to deal with a neighbor unless it's one of those neighbor's for life situations. I think being "neighborly" in today's society is overrated.
2006-10-22 09:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by concretebrunette 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Limit your interactions with this person. Passive aggressive people love to stir up trouble and then act like they are completing innocent. It's hard to "pin them down" or have them take responsibility for their behavior because they have diffused boundaries and are extremely manipulative. A simple hi and a wave would be the most effective manner of interaction with them...
2006-10-23 04:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knock on the door at a time where there is nothing really important going on, next, "Hi, I seen you around and all and just thought id say Hi, if you are not busy at all would you like to go out for a drink?"
Just be steadfast and don't be scared or intimidated
2006-10-22 09:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by Dero 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Try to remain neutral and not get drawn into the weirdness. Thank God you're not related to them.
2006-10-22 09:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by RockwallCat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
passive-aggressive people are really hard to rationalize with. You just have to be patient (very patient) and go with their flow.
2006-10-22 09:04:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jess 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bake them something and break the ice. That can not NOT respond to a simple act of kindness. Kill em with it! (Not kill em with the baked item, meant the kindness part!)
2006-10-22 09:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by russellcroweswife 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋