No one wants to believe that their spouse cheats. I know I don't. Just the thought of my husband being with another woman really bothers me. One thing that my husband does constantly is accuse me of cheating, "If I ever find out that you are cheating.........". He also goes through my underwear drawer and dirty clothes to "sniff".....yeah.....gross. He hides his cell phone bill..........Okay my real question is.........Are there any guys out there that HAVE done this and more.........but honesly was NOT cheating. Please be honest with me.
2006-10-22 08:55:37 · 18 answers · asked by Ms. Hodges 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The guilty dog barks first.
Usually it's the one accusing the other person (without reason) that is cheating.
Ask to see the cell phone bill. If he won't give it to you call the cell phone company yourself and have one faxed to you. You should have all the information needed to get the phone company release all that to you.
Until then, think about what other "evidence" you have that he's cheating. You know yourself what it feels like to be accused of it when you're not doing it. If you don't have anything substantial try not to accuse him. If you don't have any evidence other than his accusations towards you and the hidden cell bill, I wouldn't be to nervous.
Don't ruin your marriage over something that you're not certain of.
Good luck.
2006-10-22 09:05:21 · answer #1 · answered by andi b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never really seen any man as nosy as him. Why does he go through your underwears anyway? What can he determine from the underwears anyway? I am not married yet, so I don't know about this. You should confront him. If you are a good wife and devoted to him, you should start a conversation with him. If he is cheating on you, you should talk to him. Good luck!
2006-10-22 16:16:22 · answer #2 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has made you feel suspicious, and your heart is breaking over the thought of your best friend and lover is cheating on you.
If he is being evasive and hiding bills you can bet he is up to something. My guess is he is cheating. Being a married man myself (47 years). I know what I'm talking about. The good Lord gave every man a week spot. All girls know this, and they love to lure a good man from their wife's and family's, using their female wilds. If you love him stick around maybe he will grow tired of her, or start thinking about his family. You also have to think about the prospect of him bringing home a disease to you or the children if you have any.
2006-10-22 16:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by Harry Laborde 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a former cheater - panty-sniffing or not, anyone who accuses others is doing it himself. Period.
If he doesn't throw open his cell phone bill, credit card bills, car odometer, and computer e-mail inbox, and give you 100% access, then he is cheating.
Discussion closed.
Oh and by the way he will never stop cheating. Don't believe the promises to reform.
2006-10-22 16:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has nothing to hide why can't you see his cell phone bill. This is a big red flag, he might be cheating or getting to the point of actually cheating.
2006-10-22 16:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a guilty conscience, sweetie. You can try to call the cell phone company if you have his number and password, or actually go there in person. There are private investigators you can hire to follow him, take pictures, video, etc. You already know in your heart he is cheating. Now you just have to prove it.
2006-10-22 15:59:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! He is cheating, he thinks you are and he feels guilty. I left my husband 6 months ago, that was the best decision I have ever made. And yes he was a cheater
2006-10-22 16:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by mysticmoons2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has control issues. He's probably not cheating, but looking for total control.
2006-10-22 18:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, things don't sound good. I hope you don't have kids! Before you got married, did you or your husband have sex with other people? i believe the answer is the same answer to what you are asking. Sorry, Le.
2006-10-22 16:09:38 · answer #9 · answered by sterlingheightsgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you say "paranoia"? Sounds like your hubby has some real issues!!
Anyone who accuses others is doing it himself.
2006-10-22 16:19:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋