Wife has put rings back on after taking them off 12 days ago.?

Question

She says she still needs space & time after nearly 12 months separation when I like a complete dick did not reveal how i really felt due to using anger as a defence mechanism.I have nearly lost the most important things to me my wife & family.I want to give her space but dont want her to think im becoming uninterested.Im in it for the long haul.I know it wont be easy but i dont want to lokk at myself in the mirror in 10 years time thinking I shouldve done something,If only i had listened more with my heart insted of giving in to anger & pride.
Put simply I love her & want her back BIG TIME.......
Anyone with constructive positive advice????

Answer 1

Have you told her? Have you showed her? Honey, you are trying to make up for lost time and lost opportunities and it ain't going to be easy, but it is do able if she's willing. Talk to her, tell her you want her to know just what you told us. That you want her back, not only in the house, in your bed, but you want to be back in her heart.

Remember trying to win her heart when you first meet her. Well, let's get to courting. Bring her a gift, not no big expense one, a rose or a wild flower home from work. Send her -mails, funny ones, heartfelt ones, and a thank-you ones for giving you another chance. Call her during the day sometimes. Don't over do, once a week. Make a date with her, ask if she would honor you with her persences Friday or Saturday night. Tell her to dress up, you are taking her out on the town.

Do romantic things, like washing the dishes. Yes, I said washing the dishes. Honey, fore-play begins long before the bedroom. Pick up your dirty clothes, keep the kids, and send her to get her hair cut. Or better yet, get Grandma to keep the rug rats, and you go with her. Take her to the grocery store, push the buggy.
Little things sometimes means the most.

Admit to your part of the breakdown, and apologize. It takes a big man to admit his wrongs. It takes true love for a woman for a man to confess his sins, you love her-you can tell, now tell her!
show her! romance her! ask her what she needs! it's time to back up off the computer and go grab her, and ask her if she wants to take a walk or go get some ice cream with you...don't you think it's time to start putting them shoes on?

God bless us all..................

Answer 2

OK, i know this stuff, really! #1) your new policy is: from now on, i will never raise my voice..never, no matter who is at fault, and even if she is yelling at me. #2) you were madly in love at one time, think back to what you did with her and your not doing now. #3) If you happen to talk about things, tell her: It would break my heart to see some other guy with "My Girl". Call her "Your Girl" as often as you can, and from now on. #4) ask her out on a dinner date. yes, really.. a date! even if its a cheap restaurant with no beer. Dates work! she will say yes #5) You say you don't want to lose your family, so you have a child together. When holding your child in her presence, tell your child, your going to be a good looking young man, because your mom was the best looking woman i have ever seen. #6) Tell her, "i know there are other people out there to date, and i thought about it, and decided i already have the best girl possible. #7) If any of this works, and your lucky enough to go to bed with her, make it a night she won't forget, really, yes you have to lick it, remember how much fun that was way back when?.
You simply, have to win her over again for the second time. That should do it! the new you will automatically change her, and you will keep her forever. By the way, If you hop in bed with another girl, its all over between you and your wife. Good Luck, Le.

Answer 3

It's takes a good man to do that. My hubby was very very abusive when it came to mental and verbal abuse. We were very close to divorce in fact. we were separated for nearly a year as well. I would not go back to him until he went to anger management and counseling with me. You need to tell her these things as well. You have to show her that you are really truly changed. As a woman it was hardest for me to stay away until he decided what he really truly wanted and know that he was truly changed. As a woman it is hard to feel helpless. You really love the person but sometimes a woman lets herself get so involved they forget about themselves. Don't just look at the coulda woulda shoulda aspect, but look at what you can do now to improve your relationship. You have to show her you are sincere and really trying to change. You have to reveal how you feel too. It is a two way street. She is probably scared if she goes back then it will not change. I know I have said this time and again on these forums already but go to counseling. Prior to popular belief it works wonders in a relationship if you are willing to listen and try. Good luck. I hope this advice helps a little. Change doesn't come in a day and takes time. I believe that people if they let themselves can change a few things about them to make them better without changing who they are on both sides of the coin.

Answer 4

are you an aquarius by any chance?

give her the space and time..... bottom line is that the damage may already be done, and if that is the case she can't flip a switch to turn her feelings back on.

feel glad that she has not completely walked away, and is still trying to search her own soul for answers.

above all, if she does walk away, pick up the pieces, and remember what you learned from this, so you don't make the same mistakes in future relationships.

Answer 5

First of all being this committed to your marriage is 75% of the battle.Woman can only handle anger insalt and jealousy from a man for so long-even if they love him. You must be willing to change some of your negative ways and just must be able to see the change to gradually give her heart to you. If you do not know how to work on these things, maybe counseling for you could teach you ways to control things you do not mean to do. True love is a hard thing to find and once you find you you must be willing to change negative things about yourself. Good Luck --you absolutely have a good chance of making it work if you are willing to give up some of your old ways!!!

Answer 6

Yes just remember we are going to be gone from this earth alot longer then we are here. So just be honest with her and tell her how ego and pride got in the way. And now you want a fresh start with her. Give her the space she needs but just let her know your feelings, send her some roses with a card. Good luck.

Answer 7

It seems like she care about you, but you are making it very difficult with your attitude and pride. When you think of the wrong thing to say or let pride get in the way, just think about her being with another man, him going down on her, her going down on him they making love. That's exactually what's going to happen if you don't get your sh!t together.

Answer 8

but maybe giving her space an time will make her think you are giving up an she will come back to you quicker if you keep playing hard to get. learn from your angered mistakes you have made careful not to repeat them. as you see it pushes her away.

Answer 9

FIX IT!!!! Buy her flowers take her away some place tropical do whatever it takes. Tell her what you just told us. I f you can't do that write her a letter. Do something that she could never imagine you doing. Good luck

Answer 10

tell her exactly what you just told us. Tell her how you feel about her and then show her how much she means to you. Remember words are only empty shells. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. So show her!