I have a friend he is gay. As for me i'm bi (maybe i I could not make me out yet) but he doesn't know about it cause i do not accentuate on this any attention of anyone. But I feel drawn to him, but i can't find any way to demonstrate it for him. I think if he doesn't reciprocate my feelings i will be crushed. What should i do that he will understand that i have feelings to him?
I do not know what to do even i can't open my sexuality to anybody.
2006-10-22 08:17:10 · 11 answers · asked by Sasha 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
tell him, trust is the basis for any friendship. so take a deep breath , hold it , and spill your guts. just tell him you're bi and take a read. if he's interested he'll let you know, but be careful a lot of friendships are ruined for a fling, or one person becomes more enamored than the other........good luck! give us an update
2006-10-22 20:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding a way to demonstrate that you are bi would probably be the best way to have him maybe make the next step. Its kind of a random thing to bring up. Watching a movie the other day, a charachter was questioning her sexuality and someone says 'how do you not know if you are gay?' and a girl there said that she is feeling the same way. So after that we all knew that she was somewhere from straight to gay. Maybe a simple way to demonstrate your orientation? Thats the only example I could think of, but I think first see how he reacts when he finds out first. It might come up pretty easily if he is talking about his sexuality, try to look for opportunities.
2006-10-22 08:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by bippidibopiddi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation will take a lot of courage. Maybe go on a "friendly outing" with him...but structure them like dates. Begin to accentuate your "gay-side" around him. That doesn't mean going the stereotypical 9 yards w/flamboyancy...but just talk about relationships, talk about movies (and it might be helpful to talk about movies with hot guys in them...i.e. Oh did you watch Closer...who do you think was hotter?...wasn't clive owen really hot?...etc.) Start to show him that you have no problem about commenting on the physical appearance of guys. When ever you guys get tothe sexual stage...i.e. talking about sex, suggestive materials, commenting abotu sex scenes (and not jsut a 10s convo either...something around 5-10 minutes)....it means that his gaydar has probably lit up for you...and then ocomes the hardest part
telling him how you feel
He may assume, but people don't usually jsut make this observatino outright. So you will have to tel lhi mhow you feel
that you cant stop thinkign about him
that he's the first guy you''ve had feelings for..s.tuff like that (s long as it's true...don't lie when you're telling him how you feel!)
hope that helps?
2006-10-22 08:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by RaimundoL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people who identify as gay are really bisexual. In a world which is predominantly straight or gay, bisexuals feel like outsiders everywhere. To get round this, some bisexuals form their own groups and others identify as one or the other to gain acceptance. I'm not saying that this is the case with your friend, but theres a small possibility it could be.
I know a girl who used to date a bisexual guy. The funny thing was that this particular guy thought he was gay, until he fell in love with that girl. Not sure why the relationship folded, but the experience created a lot of doubt and confusion for that guy.
2006-10-22 09:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you should have no problem whatsoever telling him you're bisexual. Him being gay will make him understanding about the whole situation. Maybe he'll be interested and maybe he won't, but don't push him if he doesn't reciprocate feelings for you like you do for him.
2006-10-22 09:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by JR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know that you are bi. Maybe if he knows he will show interest. But it's the same as heterosexuals, you get nervous and fear rejection. The first step would be to let him know you are bi. You should see some sign if he is interested in you.
2006-10-22 09:43:03 · answer #6 · answered by gc27858 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him only that ur bi... and if he has feelings for u he'll ask you out... If he doesn't xpress feelings in return, then move on and except him as just a friend
2006-10-23 12:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by that1kidme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. He's gay so he won't reject you as a friend. Just tell him over a few drinks, but don't let on that you are interested in him. You might be surprised. He might be interested in you!
2006-10-22 08:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk it out. Really good friends seem to always find a way.
2006-10-22 08:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him if Ur friend it will not matter he will understand and tell him u have feeling for him who know maybe he feel the same about u
2006-10-22 08:45:12 · answer #10 · answered by fame4000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋